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I found out that my husband was visiting Adult Friend Finder as well as other porn. I have been married almost 20 years, have 5 children. He has been caught by me looking at porn a few times over the years. Why would a man use adult friend finder?

How can I get good proof?

Bonnets, Look under Investigative Tips and you'll get more info. You might want to post your questions there too.

Adult Friend Finder is a site that is for anonymous sexual liaisons. It's pretty graphic and disgusting. Also, the company that owns it owns a few other similar sites like Alt.com.

A man would use AFF to find people to hook up with.

I think that you would need to find his user name and then look him up on the site. You might need to pay for a subscription to get any photos that he posted. Once you have his user name, you can google it - if he has multiple profiles on other sex sites, he might be using the same name. Google will capture that.

I'm sorry your H is on that site. It's not porn. It's just ads for hookups.

The only reason to be on AFF is to find someone to screw.

Oh God. Major trigger. Adult Friend Finder is where wayward spouses go to cheat.

I'm sorry you're here.
For the how to on AFF try another forum.
AFF is for cheaters and others for sex hook ups.
No need to be embarrassed, some of our xws were on there while married too.

AFF victim here but we're still together.

No other reason to be on there other than he either is looking to hook up with someone, is trying to hook up with someone or is hooking up with someone from there.

I would recommend a keylogger. You'll be able to talk to those in Investigative once you've posted 51 times.

I just wanted to post that keyloggers are illegal. The biggest mistake of my life was trying to install a key logger on my STBX's computer. He came after me in court - it's a federal crime. He's also threatening to sue me for civil damages.

I got lucky. It never installed properly and my lawyers are able to prove it.