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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Howdy everyone, its been a minute since I swung here to check in.

This was the first place I went to when I found out my ex wife cheated the first time.. and the second... and the third. When I tossed her out (figuretively) I hit the self destruction button.

Three years later, after failing out of college. Ignoring my PTSD from a long stay in Iraq. Finding out I couldn't drown the pain away with booze. The feeling of being alive was to short and never enough with cocaine. Accepting that the happiness I found with acid wasn't real. I tried to hang myself.

Fortunately I failed physics in college. My mass + acceleration from the drop > the strength of the branch. The thing landed on my head, the next day I went to a shrink meeting and when she saw the marks on my neck she called an ambulance.

A few months later, a stay in treatment plus a PTSD program and a new relationship and I feel great. The legal troubles should go away with time and I now have an amazing woman to hold my hand.

-the run-
Minnesota Nice

Posts: 127 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Minnesota
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the update...I'm really glad things are starting to fall into place for you

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

Posts: 210060 | Registered: May 2002
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. I am very glad you did not succeed in your efforts to destroy yourself. I have been there. I'm glad your counselor took you seriously and got help for you.

Life can be beautiful. You are absolutely worth it. Keep on living, man.

Me, 50. (How did THAT happen??)
Him, 42 (JMSSC)
married 20 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 3999 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^ This. I'm glad you're finding your strength and joy.

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 17059 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey therun! Thanks for checking in. I'm sorry you feel down that spiral, but I'm glad that everything is finally on the up-and-up for you and that you found someone to walk alongside you.

Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

Posts: 6121 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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