Just feel like I need some support. The hurt has been lingering this week.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
We're here for you, anyway.
You can DETACH emotionally, it will save you more heartache and make you stronger so you will have the strength to make it through this.
It sucks, i know. But the sooner you drop having expectations of her acting like a compassionate person the better.
I'm so sorry.
Sending you strength and (((HUGS))).
You know you can always turn to us for support and ton of virtual hugs.
I know where you're coming from.
180, 180, 180 and then for variety, 180. Work on you. Exclude her from as much of your life as you can. She is the LAST person you should be turning to for support. She thinks that you will be there if she changes her mind. Disabuse her of that notion.
Shoot, take your kids to dance class too!
Or karate. There are a lot of dojos that do family style martial arts these days.
I agree with the others, when it comes to doing the 180 and detachment.
Look at it this way: you went to your wife for comfort, and you got the opposite of comfort. The opposite of comfort is what you should expect from her from now on. She's shown you who she is, and she is a person that is undeserving of you.
Hang in there. Sending you strength.
She agreed but seemed annoyed. This later lead to her cutting into me again and letting me know that I shouldn't get my hopes up.
Bottom line to me is that is she isn't remorseful and has no real empathy. I've seen posts from remorseful WS here on SI and I feel confident saying they would post (actually I believe they have posted) about how grateful they were their BS turned to them for comfort. They were grateful for any chance to help heal their pain because they truly wanted to R.
You don't have that unfortunately. My advice is, like so many others have said, to detach. You cannot have your emotional health and healing be contingent upon her actions at all.
She agreed but seemed annoyed.
This makes my blood boil. It also raises a shadow of the hurt and anxiety I felt when my unremorseful spouse would act in similar ways towards me while I thought we were working towards reconciliation. Your WW is definitely not remorseful.
Ah, It's just SO EFFING hard to be around that person everyday. Just knowing that we are both counting the days/weeks until she can afford to leave.
^^^This! I completely know how this feels. Some days it's just so crushing. My husband won't even look at me when I'm talking to him about something regarding the kids.
It sucks to say the least. I hope your day gets better for you. Is there something you can do, a hobby perhaps, that will get you through the rough days?
[This message edited by simplydevastated at 3:22 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]
I am in the same place. Having some sad days...looking for support and nothing. WH does nothing in the house, I have to do it all. And all you want to do is go to that person for support and love and they arent giving it to you.
Point being, 180. Do it for you.
[This message edited by StillLivin at 4:13 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]