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9.10.11 posted 11/20/2013 13:17 PM

What do you all get a SO that you have been seeing for 6 months, 1 yr, 18 months, etc?

I've been seeing someone for over a yr. Like her but don't know how much farther our relationship will progress. She is a great person and does so much for so many people. She has always wanted a nice ring. Do you all know what a nice ring costs? $1,000 is nothing. I can afford that but don't want it to be taken wrong. Don't want her to feel that I'm "pushing" for more in the relationship.

Or I could get her a KA mixer. lol

What are all your plans for Christmas?

EvenKeel posted 11/20/2013 13:24 PM

KA mixer...do you want the relationship to grow or faulter?

I actually loved my KA gift the year that I received it but I had requested it.

I would not do the ring if you are not really sure if the relationship is going anywhere.

What are all your plans for Christmas?

Not dating this year - but last time I concentrated more on thoughtful gifts versus monetary. He really wanted a hoodie from his old HS so I drove to his hometown and got one. When his DD was little, he signed over parental rights to his ex-wife and her new H. He had not seen a picture of his DD in a good seven years. I was able to obtain a recent one (gotta love FB snooping) and had it framed for him. Was not a costly gift but it was definitely his best present (probably EVER).

hexed posted 11/20/2013 13:36 PM

Instead of a ring, what about nice pendant or simple ear rings with the stone of her general preference? Jewelery is always romantic but a ring adds a certain level of possible pressure.

Crescita posted 11/20/2013 13:49 PM

How far into the relationship are you? The ring might be okay if you are early enough in that she isn't thinking about engagement, but then $1000 is a bit much.

KA mixer would be splendid if she likes to cook/bake, otherwise, no.

Jewelry is generally safe, or a designer bag. Does she like purses?

Since you say she is always doing for others, maybe a gift certificate to a spa so she can relax and be taken care of for a change.

StillLivin posted 11/20/2013 14:04 PM

It's been a year. What have you found out she enjoys in that time.
I don't always have the finances these days for a spa treatment. So for a lot of women a full spa treatment at a really good resort.
But, not all women are into this.
Is there a sport she likes to do? What are her hobbies?
If only dating and not that serious, something really thoughtful is more appreciated than monetary anyway.
Crescita's idea of a handbag is a good one if you already know which hand bags she has been eyeing.
Maybe go shopping a little in advance and really watch what catches her fancy.

What are all your plans for Christmas?

Haven't made any plans just yet. Still trying to figure out what I'm doing on Thanksgiving.
Was hoping Crescita or newlysingle might want to host a G2G after the holidays!

million pieces posted 11/20/2013 14:53 PM

No ring and if there is jewelry, no little box. My SO did that to me our first xmas and I just about died because I thought it may be a ring and then got sad because it wasn't

9.10.11 posted 11/20/2013 15:33 PM

Got it. I can see how a ring could have too much meaning and don't want either one of us to be uncomfortable.

She has a couple coupons for free spa from me and one of her friends.

Maybe other posts of what you all have gotten and what people have given will spark something.

Great help! Thank You!

StillLivin posted 11/20/2013 16:27 PM

Bwahahaha, what I've gotten. You have jokes. STBXWH in 9 years got me 2 purses, and one necklace. That's everything, birthdays, anniveersaries, Mother's Day, Christmas! E.v.e.r.y t.h.i.n.g!
He didn't even get me an engagement ring. He was in the field and time was running out, I finally went and got it myself and had it sized.
Convenient that he was always a last minute kind of guy!
I like guns, so maybe a gift card to some gun ranges. I also like perfume. Green tea by Elizabeth Arden is my favorite, but there are a lot of really good ones out there.
Or, a weekend getaway at a resort for just the two of you! Now that would be nice, and a lot less expensive than a $1000 ring.

fireproof posted 11/20/2013 17:51 PM

I think if there isn't something you specifically knows she would like then I would surprise her with a weekend away.

I would give her the brochure or ticket as part of the gift. For example some people want to see a broadway show on broadway - a weekend in NYC. Some might love to see the Nutcracker possibly a weekend in the city.

Make it fun and good luck!

better4me posted 11/20/2013 22:19 PM

I think the best gifts are the ones that show you've noticed what is important to the person you are giving the gift to. For instance, is she had commented about her hands being cold in the winter time you could buy her some leather gloves. Or remembering comments and conversations about favorite foods or restaurants, you buy a gift certificate to a kitchen store or to a restaurant.

It takes time and interest and imagination to pay attention to what is important to her, what her interests are, and the gifts that mean the most are the ones that show you've listened.

I've been seeing someone since the beginning of October...if this keeps up I'll have to practice what I preach! It may be gift of a sweatshirt from his favorite college sports team--the team that is the rival to my favorite college sports team---argh!

really trying posted 11/20/2013 22:42 PM

does she collect anything? Adding to a collection is always welcomed.

starting or adding to a charm bracelet

one of those heaters that look like a fireplace would make a room cozy

hope you let us all know.

So if anyone comes on here asking what to get me for Christmas, you all can point them to this thread.

SeanFLA posted 11/21/2013 12:09 PM

I think a great jewelry gift are pearls. Doesn't need to be a pearl ring, but a chocker or bracelet. Even what's called a "Tin Cup" pearl necklace. Possibly pearl earrings. Very classy gift if she doesn't have any already. Best part is if the relationship does progress you can always add to the collection over time (necklace this year, earrings for her birthday, etc...get the picture?). I don't know any woman who isn't impressed with a great set of pearls and they are an endless classic that never goes out of style. They go with dress up as well as a pair of jeans. I know of a great place to order some with excellent service if you're interested, just PM me.

waterloo09 posted 11/21/2013 17:33 PM

A nice watch is always great. If she reads I suggest an reader. Bracelet with charms is nice too.

damncutekitty posted 11/21/2013 17:38 PM

SO and I moved in together in April. I suggested we go in together on something for the apartment for Christmas and then maybe just exchange stocking stuffers. He seemed to like the idea, but I have a feeling he will decide we should do regular gifts. I think he likes shopping for presents. He's a good gifter.

FaithFool posted 11/21/2013 18:14 PM

A pony?