There are not many traditions that are not tied to my FOO. Holidays with them is not an option at this point in time. I find myself standing before a blank drawing board. Please help with inspiration and share your traditions.
Three of mine:
1. The kids get new jammies on Christmas Eve night. That way they have flashy new ones for pictures on Christmas morning.
2. A beautiful card and letter for QS on Christmas morning. He gives me one too.
3. Unlike Mother, who takes down all the decorations the day after Christmas, we leave ours up till New Years.
Our groundbreaking tradition this year was not waiting till Thanksgiving to listen to Christmas music. I have been waiting for a new Christmas album to drop by a certain artist. It finally did (in Canada) so a friend mailed me a copy. It got here two weeks ago. We've been listening to it every since.
[This message edited by Aubrie at 3:33 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Also, DD and I always make potato latkes. We will not use a food processor, we peel and grate each one by hand. Pain is part of the process .
We used to do one small gift for each night of Hanukkah but as they got older and their gifts got more expensive we usually do just one big gift.
I put out the cute decorations the kids made over the years at preschool and Hebrew school. Makes me smile.
Although not a holiday, we always go to the movies together on Mother's Day.
If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.
I always buy a book for each grandchild and inscribe the date and "With Love from Nana" on each one for Christmas. I also get them 1 clothing item and one toy. They have so many Christmas celebrations that they are inundated with toys.
I have a pretty limited budget and I used to get gift cards for my sons and DILs, but they would rather have some spending money. This year I will put 4 envelopes on the tree, one with $20, one with $30, one with $40, and one with $50. Then we will do a contest to see who gets to choose first and so on. It puts a little suspense in the process and everyone gets something that way.
The one thing I have learned over the years is to be flexible. Some years we cannot be together on Christmas Eve so we do things the day after. Sometimes I have to buy the sides, or I can only make one or two favorites. If my kids do eventually marry (from these keys to God's eyes lol) scheduling will be all that more difficult. We all know that being together, even if it isn't exactly THAT DAY, is what counts.
This year, Thanksgiving dinner will be on Saturday, but the four of us are having duck on Thursday!
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I LOVE new holiday music, who is it?
I do know that your Thanksgiving is earlier than ours...
I love reading everyone's stories!!!!
I thought of another one.
Last year was the first year we took the kids Black Friday shopping. (QS and I used to go out late Thursday night but last year, we got up early on Friday instead.) We had the car packed with pillows and blankets for the kids. I ran into a couple shops while QS stayed with the kids. Once they were good and awake, they went in and shopped with us. They loved shopping in their jammies and house shoes. They begged to do it again this year.
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When the kids were younger, we'd have a project making a set of ornaments for the Christmas tree. Now, years later, we giggle when we hang the stuffed felt gingerbread men and other handmade ornaments on the tree.
We also leave our tree up until after the New Year.
One tradition we started when my kids became teens is to have a scavenger hunt for their gifts. We put half of their gifts in various hidey holes around the house, then set the first clue under the tree. They then have to figure out the clue in order to find their next gift. The first year we did it, they looked at us like we lost our minds, but were disappointed when we didnt do it the following year. So it has become part of our routine.
Another tradition we do is to watch Christmas movies, starting with Charlie Brown and working our way to Bad Santa.
Now that my kids are pretty much grown and almost out of the house, it is simply a joy to have them at home and spending time with them.
I think this year I'll try to get both kids and hubby into the kitchen to make/decorate some cookies....
I forgot to add that I've always let the kids open ONE gift on Christmas Eve.
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And this reminds me, I have to get to work on this year's clues!!
With regard to Christmas music, one of my personal traditions, I always listen to reggae versions of Christmas music. My stepfather is from the West Indies, so that's what I grew up hearing. It isn't quite Chirstmas for me until I hear steel pan drum-laden Christmas tunes.
We also do jammies on Xmas eve, which are left unwrapped on the living room couches when the kids aren't paying attention. When they were little, we'd stomp around and go HO HO HO and they would come running. We'd say, You JUST missed him! Hurry, put these on and let's go to bed! lol
We have the.same.thing. for breakfast every Xmas morning. I keep trying to change it but my kids refuse. Christmas quiche. Every year.
About a week before Xmas, we will load up in the car with hot chocolate and drive around looking at everyone's lights (no cellphones allowed!)
I always make fresh green beans as one of the side dishes. My daughter and I snap the ends while we watch the Thanksgiving Day Parades in the morning--done this for years--so excited she is a freshman far away at college and coming home after three long months - yay- she said snapping green beans will mean so much more than it ever has before We will have 17 people this year and I can't wait!
Big Christmas Eve party at my in-laws everyone gets all dressed up--then we all come home and sit around the fire and watch A Christmas Story- my fav! Kids head to bed and I do their stockings--even though they are 21 and 18--can't help myself. Christmas morning is relaxing and we just hang out and do stockings and presents and I make breakfast. Then we have a big Christmas dinner that evening at my Mom's for her side of the family. My Mom's husband is Italian so he makes soooo much food and tons of different stuff. Such a good time.
**When my kids were little we did the new p.j.'s on Christmas Eve thing too and I don't take down my trees (yes, I said trees--I put up 2 trees--my husband wants to kill me but I love it) until New Year's Day.
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Love this thread!
Christmas: We do an ugly Christmas sweater party for our friends and family. We buy a real tree every year and we go as a family to pick it out. The kids also get new PJ's on Christmas night. We also read the Christmas story every Christmas eve, before bed.
We had our Thanksgiving dinner on the Sunday before because the X always had to work on Thanksgiving Day. On Thanksgiving morning we'd have a big breakfast (the X left for work around noon), then DS & I would go to a movie in the afternoon.
Christmas was pretty loose. Usually the X had to work, but if he was home on Christmas Eve, we always had shrimp scampi and shrimp cocktail. We opened presents Christmas morning, then if the X was working, DS and & would go to a movie again. If he wasn't, we'd have prime rib for dinner.
That's about it.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
no family other than the 6 of us and the SIL. I love it that way! I do miss little children being around but I have a feeling in 10 years I could have 10 grandchildren.
Roast Beef Dinner and fixings on Xmas day.
We do an ugly Christmas sweater party for our friends and family.
People have dared me to wear it to church for our Christmas service. Tempting....I will if they do. We can all walk in with fugly sweaters.
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks