So the Gnat graced me with his presence by sending me our December custody schedule. I should explain that he travels extensively for work, so we have to do our schedule month to month. We try for one weeknight and every other weekend, but some months that doesn't work. He may do two weekends in a row, or two weeknights, etc.
So everything looked fine, except Christmas. In our divorce decree we decided that this year, I would have the kids Christmas Eve/Christmas morning and then he would have them the rest of the day. He even asked me about it a week or so ago to clarify that that was the arrangement. I assured him it was. So, I get the schedule, and he says he's "away" until his flight comes in at 5 pm on Christmas day. Then he would like to pick up the kids and spend "Christmas" with them.
Okay, so first of all, by the time he gets luggage and gets to my house it will be 6:30 if all goes well. DS goes to bed at 7. Also, because I was going to be kidless I was asked to attend a formal dinner party at a friend's house that evening. I was really looking forward to it. Of course I don't mind having my children, but do you think he could have run his vacation plans past me first!!! I know damn well that he is flying out to HK's family to celebrate redneck Christmas with her white trash family. I told him to forget it and that I had other plans and would just have to bring the kids with me. He could see them after Christmas.
I'm a flexible person and willing to work with him, but this is so typical. He goes and makes plans and doesn't even bother to run it past me first. I am taking the kids to a north pole thing out of town one weekend in December. I told him in July...JULY!!! I knew the holidays would get busy and wanted it on his calendar so he could plan around it. What planet do I live on that I thought I would be extended the same courtesy? I know I can't expect any more from him than his usual selfish and disrespectful ways, but it's still annoying. Now I have to see if I can bring my kids to the dinner. I think they're might be a kid or two there, but not sure.
The sad thing is that the kids lose out by not getting to see their own dad on Christmas.