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User Topic: Aren't you glad?
Gotmegood
♀ 41407
Member # 41407
Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the first hours of screaming, crying and reeling from the revelation that my 64 year old H chose, drove 2 1/2 hours to meet,and paid to have sex w/ a 20 year old prostitute, he said to me "aren't you glad that it wasn't a REAL affair in which I loved or had emotional attachment"?


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 544 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
devasted30
♀ 39439
Member # 39439
Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG - they are just so friggin STUPID!!!!!
(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1442 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
shiloe
♀ 1224
Member # 1224
Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes Gotmegood, you should be so happy


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with yet another married ho-worker. Kicked h

Posts: 663 | Registered: Mar 2003
LMomof2
♀ 41064
Member # 41064
Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUGS))) from me, too.


LMomof2
Me - BW - 59
Him - WH - 59
35 yrs - 2 daughters 17, 21
DDay - 10-15-13
ONS - 9-20-13 and probably YEARS of gaslighting - signs were there.

Posts: 81 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
LMomof2
♀ 41064
Member # 41064
Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and I would like to tell your WH...Sorry, Buddy, you are still 64 years old. Screwing a 20 year old slut does not make you young again. Over the past year or so, my WH kept telling me how old he was getting, white hair, aches and pains..blah, blah, blah. Guess he was hoping his slut was the fountain of youth for him.


LMomof2
Me - BW - 59
Him - WH - 59
35 yrs - 2 daughters 17, 21
DDay - 10-15-13
ONS - 9-20-13 and probably YEARS of gaslighting - signs were there.

Posts: 81 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Scientist
♂ 40910
Member # 40910
Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of all the pathetic scenarios on SI, this has to be the worst (I am sorry to say...). What did he think she saw in him? "I knew she loved me because she didn't charge me as much as the others..." (?). What a sad old man... I am really sorry you are here and going through this, and wish you all the strength you need.


Me: 58
WW: 58
M: 36 years
Together 39 years
4 children, 1 grandchild
dday(1) July 2005; dday(2) September 2013

Posts: 46 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: UK
momentintime
♀ 16394
Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was minimizing for his comfort and lack of responsibility.

Not to add to you pain, but I would imagine if she is contacting him this wasn't a one off. He needs to be honest and "get" how truly horrible his dong this was.

It is an awful blow when infidelity is discovered. It will take time (2-5 years) to recover. You may forgive, but you will never forget. He needs to understand how greatly he has damaged your relationship, rocked your sense of security and risked your health.

Take care.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 3018 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
painfulpast
♀ 41038
Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not to add to you pain, but I would imagine if she is contacting him this wasn't a one off.

I completely agree. Prostitutes donít continue to write someone, unless he overpaid, was very easy to get rid of, or she has zero clients. Why would she keep chasing a 64 year old? I think there is more to the story Ė more visits, more communication, something.

Itís very rare that a WS comes clean the first time. You were told in August. Have you learned more since then? Have you asked, or have you just assumed he was being truthful?


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it would have been great to respond with:

I'm so happy I could shit a rainbow. Oh by the way, while you made that drive I threw all your stuff in the yard, and changed the locks. You should be happy to know that your choices make me no longer love you.

HAHAHAHAHA Idiot.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8898 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Gotmegood
♀ 41407
Member # 41407
Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course I suspect that he is lying about the 1x experience with the 20 yr old prostitute, and mainly BECAUSE she texted him to solicit another visit.
But let's see.....he's a lying cheater and she's a maladjusted, low-skilled , law breaker.....so who's going to tell me the truth? I've asked and asked and asked and that's all he is willing to cop to. Plus, he told me he couldn't even get hard enough for her to put the condom on, so all she could do was blow him. Mr E.D. Imagine the prostitute laughing at that ?
Problem is my heart is broken. My self esteem is in the toilet (where they belong, not me). And I am struggling to smile at anything.
Thank all for responding. This site has been immensely helpful.


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 544 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Truly
♀ 40715
Member # 40715
Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

STUPID STUPID STUPID STUPID STUPID excuse for a man!


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 261 | Registered: Sep 2013
Truly
♀ 40715
Member # 40715
Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, that just makes me livid, I am often quite calm!

I'm so sorry but you should NOT feel bad about yourself AT ALL.
Quite clearly your WH has a problem. He thinks he is right. He is not. He is a fool.
And his foolishness will leave him a sad and lonely old man.
Be strong, you've done nothing to deserve such revolting and reprehensible treatment.

Look after yourself and 180 for you. It works, it helps and you will feel good about yourself.

Focus is now on YOU

Hugs (((((Gotmegood))))))


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 261 | Registered: Sep 2013
FightingBack
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Member # 34770
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is like saying, after having your knees broken with a baseball bat, "Aren't you GLAD I didn't stab you in the back?"


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 825 | Registered: Feb 2012
somanyyears
♂ 26970
Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..

WHAT NEXT????

..maybe he'll be saying: "Aren't you glad she game me the senior citizen's discount?"..

..he was, no doubt, pretending he was back in High school..

..as we've said here a million times.. fantasyland at Disneyworld..

((((((Gmg)))))

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4134 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Gotmegood
♀ 41407
Member # 41407
Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interestingly, most of my *mind movies* had featured my H (64) and the 20 yr old prostitute and my reactions were jealousy....she's so young!!!, and resulting feelings of inadequacy about me and my body. After reading your responses I see him in the movie for the sad, pathetic fool that he is. Thank you for that, I guess. Better than beating myself up.


Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 544 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Topic Posts: 15

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