I wonder just how healthy a person can get after an affair.
My wifes AP is onto another woman...have no idea if she is married, but he still is.
Are we kidding ourselves that people can turn away from this choice?
Because at the end of the day it takes two willing adults to choose this.
As I look into my own FOO fears....I think I can grow past them, mature out of them....but they are strongly engrained in me. The FOO issues within my wife influenced her choices just like mine do to my choices.
just because we know better doesn't mean we will choose to do better....I get that. But I wonder if some people are unable to choose differently?
Still have doubts.....question my growth, the growth of my M, and certainly the growth of my wife. I see some growth....but am very concerned I am seeing what I want to see rather than what I am really looking at. KWIM?
May be a control issue for me? For you?
I know I wished my wifes AP could keep it in his pants because the more he engages in his destructive ways the greater risk my girls are at of finding out about what their Mom did. We live in a small town, he has 5 kids and a wife that wrestles with alcohol abuse. The shit could hit the fan and I have little control over this...
I do have some control....we could tell our daughters more of the truth...but 6 and 9 years old seems too young to handle more than what we have shared with them......
God be with us all.