I'd bet my last dollar that OW has gotten an Iphone and he is still in contact with OW.
Honey...I get that you're scared. but//he knows you're scared. And a WH who knows you will back down..and knows you don't want to lose him..will use that against you.
You need to find your anger. Go to your closet..take out those bitch boots..strap them on. This man is not remorseful. He is not being transparent. He is making NO effort to repair the damage he has done.
GET ANGRY! This jackass had sex with this whore. You are pregnant. The risk to an unborn child coming in contact with an STD can be fatal. He put your child's life at risk.
Im sorry,but I have zero respect for any man who cheats on his pregnant wife. It is just so incredibly dangerous.
In order to R successfully he needs to:
Be 100% transparent..you get full access to all of his online accounts,emails,facebook,bank,etc..and the passwords. And he is NOT to change them.
He must be completely honest with you at all times.
He answers all of your questions,without anger or defensiveness, as often as you need to ask them. You have been traumatized..asking the same questions over and over is the way we process this crap.
He gets his ass into IC to figure out his why.
He gets tested for STD's. And NO sex until you see the results.
He writes a NC email to OW..and you send it.
And anything else you need from him..he does.
You can not R without transparency,honesty, remorse, and NC. It takes 2-5 years to heal from infidelity...and that is if you have a WH who is knocking themselves out to heal you, themselves,and the marriage.
Also..you need to do some digging into this OW. is she married? Does she have a boyfriend? He needs to be told. Don't tell your WH that you are going to tell him..just tell him. Otherwise,your WH will warn OW and she ill concoct a story about you being crazy or some other such crap. Oh,and if the only info you have on OW is from your WH...do your own research. Cheaters lie.
Im so sorry he did this. What an absolute shit. Please know nothing you did..or didn't do..made him cheat. HE chose to do this. HE is 100% responsible for his choice.
[This message edited by confused615 at 12:03 PM, November 23rd (Saturday)]
M: June 2001
Status: Reconciled. Love my "new" husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.