How do you get over the fear? My WH cheating is pretty extreme. He's in IC and we are in MC and making progress. We've had a few setbacks, things like him shutting down, etc. but he's really been making an effort. The cheating wasnt a one time blip for him, it's all he's ever known.
I see him hating who he is, embarrassed, disgusted and shameful... And afraid he won't be able to do different. But he's pushing ahead... I've pulled away recently and he's got so much more focused and stronger.
We haven't made any decisions, so I say until we are done we are working towards R. How do you get over the fear? They are such good liars and manipulators, how do you know when/if to put trust back in them?
It is hard to imagine I ever will. Last night I was sure we were done... I am trying so hard to see how getting passed this all is possible. How do you let the fear go, how do you know when it's time?