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User Topic: I'm sure a lot of us have felt this
♀ 34602
Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

R is put it mildly. R is even more difficult if our WS TT'd, lied, abused, broke NC, etc. before they "got it" or really started making an effort. I'm sure a lot of us have felt this way when we have repeatedly told our WS our needs and went unheard. Or we share with them our pain to only be hurt in the way we just told them rips our hearts out. When we feel like we have repeated the same thing 5 million times, open ourselves up to give them another chance and try to trust...but get beat down again.

Me: 35
WH: 36 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 5, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

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♀ 39670
Member # 39670
Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very timely for me, thanks for posting.

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 16652
Member # 16652
Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. The betrayal doesn't start and end with the actual cheating, or even lying about the cheating. It goes far beyond that. When we make ourselves vulnerable by explaining our pain, we expect reciprocation. Too many waywards, for whatever reasons, can't or won't do that, nor do they seem to truly understand us. And that just causes more pain.

It's not really a fairy tale 'til the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain


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