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heforgotme posted 11/22/2013 12:20 PM

Just some thoughts on this as it relates to communitcation.

Some of the biggest insights I have had into Fwh's point of view have come "accidentally", in this form.

For example, one time we were just sitting around talking and he was bemoaning the fact that his iPod was broken. He then went on to say, "I bought this for myself when we were dead broke. What a guy!"

I cannot tell you what these kinds of revelations mean to me. And I would say, especially if you are a WS, share these thoughts.

Obviously, this had occurred to me when he mentioned this. But the fact that HE brought it up meant the world.

Please. SHARE.

Skan posted 11/22/2013 16:22 PM

Yes, please SHARE. I can remember for years, hating to go to dinner alone with my FWH because he just sat there and said nothing. It was agony. I'd try to carry a conversation and nothing. It got to the point I would take along a book in my purse and we'd sometimes have a meal with both of us reading at the table.

If there is one thing that I enjoy about the two of us right now, it's the fact that we can talk to each other. That is So amazing!

TheAmazingWondertwin posted 11/22/2013 16:46 PM

I so agree.
There are definitely random moments when we will discuss something from our pre A M- not "discuss" really but just reminiscing and he will stop at some point and say "wow. I was a real d$ck. I'm sorry." Not the classiest way to apologize, but it's real. And I so appreciate it.
The other night we were just remembering some things and he made the comment about how I went to the gym and did yoga so I could look good for him "how awesome is that to have in a wife?" And I just started laughing- and said ,"seriously- I was an awesome wife. That's funny isn't it? I was a great wife that most men would kill for. How funny is that?"
I was laughing - probably a small hysterical mental break- and I couldn't stop. He got very quiet, took my hand and said , "no. It's not funny. Not in any way is that funny. I'm so sorry."

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