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We are living together again 6mo just had amazing vacation BUT NO SEX , Nada. He won't talk about it . Anyone had this problem . All he says is that he has no sexual feelings anymore . Help . I can't live like this . He is doing nothing about it . Anyone been in similar situation ?? Since we came back notice more distant . God help me not another false R .

Only you can know whether this is a sign of false R, but I can say that it was a sign of false R for me. My wife made it sound like she was going to stay but that we would never have sex again. She didn't feel that way about me anymore. It was one of the problems we had before the A, and the idea of us staying together and allowing those problems to continue made no sense. There were a variety of reasons why we had very little affection and sex in our marriage, and I realize now that it destroyed us. I should have taken us in for marriage counseling with someone that knows how to deal with intimacy issues. It is not a sustainable situation. I'm certain that one of her issues after the A was that she was saving herself for the OM.

Are you talking no sex - or no intimacy?
My WS has a problem with ED only because of his guilt - ha ha ha - had it during his affairs. But, that's another story. Anyway, he is having a real difficult time but we have loads of intimacy (his favourite part actually - always has been and that's part of why he wandered)and I am okay with it for now. Things are improving but I know it's not going to happen overnight. Possibly your WS is having some serious guilt problems as well.