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peridot posted 11/23/2013 00:28 AM

The OW sent me an email telling me that my XH had kidnapped her son and he was planning to do the same with my kids. Only I didn't fall for his shit and let him have my kids.

Apparently they really did break up and he's been living with some girl. That's why he didn't want me knowing where he lived.

I'm going to the police dept in the morning. Doubt they will do anything but at least it will be reported if he tries anything. Think it's time to move somewhere else so he doesn't know where I live.

His sister works at my son's school so on Monday I will be going to both kids schools so they know what is going on.

He really is one stupid motherfucker!

Nature_Girl posted 11/23/2013 00:34 AM

Oh Dear God.

ETA: Is it possible for you & the kids to stay somewhere else this weekend? Anywhere? Hotel? Couch surf? Please don't be alone. If he's this psychotic, he could try to violently break into your home. I'm worried for you.

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 12:35 AM, November 23rd (Saturday)]

peridot posted 11/23/2013 00:49 AM

No, I don't have any where else to go right now. We're getting winter storms right now. The OW got her son back. I know where he lives now. They aren't divorced so there wasn't much she could do. They don't even have a custody agreement. If he even tries to take my kids it's kidnapping.

betrayedfriend posted 11/23/2013 04:40 AM

I'm glad she told you and that you have warning now. Good God please be careful! I'm worried about you and your littles. Has xsil been staying away from your ds?

peridot posted 11/23/2013 06:00 AM

She's been keeping her distance. I think she's afraid of loosing her job.

Gemini71 posted 11/23/2013 10:04 AM

Prayers and strength being sent your way. I sure hope the cops take this seriously.

twinkie posted 11/23/2013 10:17 AM

Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!

I am glad everything worked out for all persons!!

peridot posted 11/23/2013 10:35 AM

I spoke to a cop. He said there isn't anything they can do until he tries something. Which I already figured, just wanted to get it on paper. I was already worried about him trying to do something like this so I have been proactive about making sure I have done everything I can to protect the kids.

inconnu posted 11/23/2013 11:34 AM

I'm so glad your kids are safe, and have you for a mom, looking out for them.

ChoosingHope posted 11/23/2013 12:45 PM

Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!

Well, in some circumstances this is true. Not in mine. Temp orders would have given my STBX way more time with the children, possibly putting them in harm's way. Each divorce is different.

(((Peridot))) Hang in there and stay strong. I'm so glad you at least went to the police department. Did they file any paperwork at all???

peridot posted 11/24/2013 01:55 AM

They took my statement and copied that email the OW sent me. Of course, the officer said they can't do anything until he breaks the law. I figured that already though.

tesla posted 11/24/2013 08:21 AM


Hopefully he's on notice and won't try anything stupid.

nowiknow23 posted 11/24/2013 08:27 AM

((((peridot & kids))))

sparkysable posted 11/24/2013 09:01 AM

Does he get visitation with your kids?

Did the OW press charges? He straight up took someone else's kids. How is he not in jail?

[This message edited by sparkysable at 9:01 AM, November 24th (Sunday)]

peridot posted 11/24/2013 09:57 AM

He doesn't have visitation with my kids. He didn't take my kids. He took his kid with the OW. They are married, no divorce has been filed and there isn't a custody order. That's how he got away with taking their kid. If he were to take my kids he would go to jail because I have sole custody.

Frankly, neither one of those idiots should be parents.

sparkysable posted 11/24/2013 14:33 PM

oh OK, I thought it was the OW's kid, NOT his kid. I read that all wrong.

Good thing he doesn't get visitation. But I'd watch your back, and make sure the school or anywhere else that they might be are on high alert.

peridot posted 11/24/2013 16:28 PM

His sister works at my son's school, so yeah, I'll be there Monday morning talking to the schools. Both schools already know I am the only person who is supposed to pick the kids up.

He threatened to take off with the kids to Mexico years ago so I have done everything I can to make sure that never happens.

Mousse242 posted 11/24/2013 19:11 PM

Do the kids know to make a scene if he tries to take them?

peridot posted 11/24/2013 19:44 PM

Yes, they do. When we have the stranger danger talk, I include their dad, his family and his friends. We've had extensive talks about this.

[This message edited by peridot at 7:49 PM, November 24th (Sunday)]

caregiver9000 posted 11/24/2013 20:34 PM


You sound like you have every thing under control. I hate that you have to be on high alert.

Hang in there.

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