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User Topic: Thank you
♀ 36126
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do some people say this and others don't? What does it mean to not be able to express it.

I took a friend out due to circumstances and they didn't say thank you. I have a friend from over 20+ years when we went to the movies I bought him a ticket and he didn't say thank you because his Mom forgotten to give him money. He is my biggest supporter and calls me a few times a month to this day. He is thoughtful so I don't get it.

I heard from a friend that girls can do this as well. My friend said she treated her friend and she was never told thank you. She thought her friend was being selfish.

In my case the person is a nice person but I don't understand. It makes me want to avoid doing things with this newer person with more financial means than me. They would have paid in the situations if they could have but couldn't. Still a thank you would have been nice.

Posts: 1563 | Registered: Jul 2012
♀ 41135
Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know why, but I have noticed the same thing. But I will add "I am sorry" to the list. I think it is just the further decay of civility. I remind my children every day to be respectful, appreciative and aware of their actions and to respond in kind. Clearly nothing my WH ever learned from his parents. Don't let other's bad action change you. Just continue to be the person you are proud to be.

Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.

Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
♀ 24518
Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it depends on the person. Some people are probably just thoughtless and/or rude, but then there are others who are probably more socially awkward than being rude. My parents raised me to be polite. But as a child/teenager, as a shy person, in social situations the polite words didn't come out so easily. I knew what I should say, but the actual speaking in the situation was too hard for me to do. I think I was too busy waiting for the perfect time to "interrupt" a conversation, and when that time didn't come, it was too uncomfortable for me to say thank you in what seemed to me like a random moment. I couldn't manage small talk either, for the longest time. Same reason.

When a man gives his opinion, he's a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she's a bitch. - Bette Davis

Posts: 12996 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas
♀ 26531
Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know...

We had a Thanksgiving Feast at our school last Wednesday.... People other than I were involved in getting it all organized, all set up and served.

I took a minute, literally took minutes, and wrote out Thank You cards to the individuals who were most involved in getting it together.

The looks I received upon delivery... These folks were shocked, pleasantly shocked, but shocked none the less...

One person wrote back at how incredible it was for me to do this...

Me... I just thought it was good manners. It sure wasn't done for any effect.

People have lost civility and social politeness...

Me: BSO - 49
Him: FWSO - 72
DS - 16
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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