I am a long,long,long, LONG time lurker, all the way back to Marzipan and the schmoopies lol... Anyway, I was just at the bowling alley and all of a sudden OW was a standing a few feet away from me. I couldn't believe the balls on this woman. At first I thought that she didn't recognize me, but the other mom at the bowling alley believes that she was purposely marking her territory. XWH eventually showed up and didn't speak to either of us and walked away. I suppose he was shellshocked at the scene. He came back and spoke to me and asked how I was doing, but didn't speak to her. He is text book passive aggressive and if she mentions the slight, it will definitely be her fault if she shows anger.
This woman sounded like a dude. The disparity between the two of us is so great that it would be rude, catty and ungracious of me to ever comment on her looks again. I felt a little sad after I left because I felt that my XWH must have been feeling pretty low to turn to that during our marriage. I just didn't know he was that vulnerable and had such low standards. Anywhoooo... valuable lessons learned. Onward and upward!!! I texted my friends, but they don't understand any infidelity related angst.