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User Topic: Antiversary tomorrow and some good news!
seekingright2013
♀ 37991
Member # 37991
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi SI,

One year ago tomorrow, the Sunday before Thanksgiving, I found out that my SO of 4.5 years was 'dating' somebody else. This, when I had talked to him about my doubts about our relationship, he had begged me to 'be patient', I got hoovered back in ... and then bam.

I couldn't believe how devastated I felt. How I questioned my memories, my sense of reality of the whole relationship. Y'know, everything we all go through.

Well, it's been a year. And I have survived IC and lots of self care and ... yep ... time !

Oh and also I found out this morning that I passed my national boards. I am now a nationally board certified teacher by the National Board of Professional Teaching Standards (NBPTS). I get a $5K/year raise (I believe starting in January). As a single parent with a kid in college and one soon to be in college, boy, do I need it !!

Thanks for being there, SI. Looking forward to upgrading when I get my raise and pondering my name change.


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
soveryweary
♀ 32265
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats seeking!!!
I am happy for you.
What a difference a year makes. Thanks for sharing a positive update.:0)


Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2011
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!


You can call me NIK

This is it. The darkest day. The blackest hour. Chin up, shoulders back. Let's see what we're made of, you and I.
― The Doctor


Posts: 36758 | Registered: Aug 2011
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is amazing for a year out. Congratulations!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 19764 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YIPPPEEEEEEEE!!!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3844 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
seekingright2013
♀ 37991
Member # 37991
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for the positive comments!

I am mostly a lurker but I have learned SO much from all of you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, humor, trials and tribulations, your successes and failures. I think SI is a very special corner of the Internet.

Many, many times I would lie down and read SI on my phone, trying to get the moxie to keep going. I learned my feelings were normal, that my SO bore the responsibility for his decisions, and especially to focus on ME and self-care.

I especially related to FF's deciding to focus on *her* life rather than another relationship. I read Shellybean's single mom struggles and soooo sympathized. Tesla's kick ass attitude made me laugh and inspired me.

And the guys here -- do you know how much I want to believe that strong, faithful, loving, REAL men exist??? Do you know that it is a comfort to know you ARE out there, even if it seems more likely I will run into a unicorn before I meet someone like you? Stronger08, wonderingbull, bigger, abbondad, allatsea, and all the others whose names escape me ... Thank you for the example you set.

I am grateful for all I have received here. I will try to post more, even if it's a "what she / he said!"


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
Topic Posts: 6

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