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User Topic: Antiversary tomorrow and some good news!
seekingright2013
♀ 37991
Member # 37991
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi SI,

One year ago tomorrow, the Sunday before Thanksgiving, I found out that my SO of 4.5 years was 'dating' somebody else. This, when I had talked to him about my doubts about our relationship, he had begged me to 'be patient', I got hoovered back in ... and then bam.

I couldn't believe how devastated I felt. How I questioned my memories, my sense of reality of the whole relationship. Y'know, everything we all go through.

Well, it's been a year. And I have survived IC and lots of self care and ... yep ... time !

Oh and also I found out this morning that I passed my national boards. I am now a nationally board certified teacher by the National Board of Professional Teaching Standards (NBPTS). I get a $5K/year raise (I believe starting in January). As a single parent with a kid in college and one soon to be in college, boy, do I need it !!

Thanks for being there, SI. Looking forward to upgrading when I get my raise and pondering my name change.


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 120 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
soveryweary
♀ 32265
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats seeking!!!
I am happy for you.
What a difference a year makes. Thanks for sharing a positive update.:0)


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 628 | Registered: May 2011
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26151 | Registered: Aug 2011
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is amazing for a year out. Congratulations!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17689 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YIPPPEEEEEEEE!!!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3235 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
seekingright2013
♀ 37991
Member # 37991
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for the positive comments!

I am mostly a lurker but I have learned SO much from all of you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, humor, trials and tribulations, your successes and failures. I think SI is a very special corner of the Internet.

Many, many times I would lie down and read SI on my phone, trying to get the moxie to keep going. I learned my feelings were normal, that my SO bore the responsibility for his decisions, and especially to focus on ME and self-care.

I especially related to FF's deciding to focus on *her* life rather than another relationship. I read Shellybean's single mom struggles and soooo sympathized. Tesla's kick ass attitude made me laugh and inspired me.

And the guys here -- do you know how much I want to believe that strong, faithful, loving, REAL men exist??? Do you know that it is a comfort to know you ARE out there, even if it seems more likely I will run into a unicorn before I meet someone like you? Stronger08, wonderingbull, bigger, abbondad, allatsea, and all the others whose names escape me ... Thank you for the example you set.

I am grateful for all I have received here. I will try to post more, even if it's a "what she / he said!"


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 120 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
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