Topic: i was supposed to get married yesterday
Member # 41185
| Posted: 10:28 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Guests, plans, rings, clothes it was all set and ready for the 22 november for my wedding. Now i had 4 awkward exhausting days of guests here who came to visit despite the wedding being cancelled as i found out about what the bride to be had been up to while i as lone provider was at work.
Now i get triggered at every hint or reference to weddings. Feel so angry, depressed and just shattered. So many triggers and i see the pics again as clearly as i saw them the first time and it dawns on me again what she did.
3 kids (5, 3, 10 months)
Together for 6 years.
D-Day #1 19/09-2013
D-Day #2 far worse 15/10-2013
Wondering who i was supposed to Marry. ..
Posts: 30 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Norway
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:30 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
((((raich)))) Sending you strength.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28418 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 13937
| Posted: 10:42 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Oh my... I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine what that what that must be like.
It is so public!!
Hugs and strength and peace to you.
What are you pretending not to know?
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.
Posts: 1914 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Not Lothlorien
Member # 41135
| Posted: 11:00 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
I am so sorry, hugs to you and the kids. There is no easy way to get thru this and I am just a few steps ahead of you. I find my strength thru my faith, family and friends and you need to surround yourself with whatever will strengthen you in this horror that is your life right now. Use your guests as a distraction because once they are gone, it will be difficult. Return here often, you will find too many people that share your story and get a little comfort from that. Be as strong as you can and lean on someone you trust. You can do this.
Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 31765
| Posted: 12:15 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Gosh,raich, hang in there. So sorry this happened. Hard to put it into words.
Stay strong, hate to say it but good that you found out now.. This is the right place to come for now and in the near future at least. It's so hard...
Will be thinking of you...
Posts: 849 | Registered: Apr 2011
Member # 36549
| Posted: 12:24 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Cancelling the wedding and dealing with guests? VERY strong of you in my book.
Love yourself. You're worth it. Face your self. You need to do it.
Posts: 381 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40787
| Posted: 12:27 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Don't feel like you have to hold the world on your shoulders either. If you need a break, go hide in your room or go for a walk or drive. Give yourself permission to fall apart a little if that's what you need. Hang in there.
DDay:Sep 19 2013 (only TT of EA)
Oct 4th 2013 revealed PA through snooping.
Marred 16 years, together for 20. Looking to R at this time. We have awesome kids (12/14).
Posts: 273 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 31528
| Posted: 1:02 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
I am so sorry. Sending you strength.
Posts: 38335 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 34353
| Posted: 2:49 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
I am sorry. Be glad you dodged that bullet of getting married to her.
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 1698 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
|Getting to Happy|
Member # 35200
| Posted: 2:53 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Oh my Raich. What a drag...hang in there buddy. Lean on us, we are here and we are listening.
Be glad you dodged that bullet of getting married to her.
Peace and Clarity to you my friend.
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Posts: 1200 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Member # 33867
| Posted: 1:29 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013|
That is so difficult to deal with...I a so sorry.
Someday you will look back on this and be so thankful that you did not marry her.
Wishing you a happier future without her.
ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
Posts: 2184 | Registered: Nov 2011
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