Topic: We're moving!!!
Member # 39532
| Posted: 10:12 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
It's amazing how making the wrong decision helps you realize the right one: yesterday we decided to remain in our small town for another six months. Although I felt a degree of relief at that decision (job stability, not having to sell our home, support network) I didn't feel a peace about the decision. Fast forward to this morning when I received some great responses and advice after posting this thread:
Reading those replies from seasoned SIers made it all clear. We thought we'd blown our chance yesterday when my H declined a position. A quick phone call later revealed the job had not yet been offered to the other applicant, and was his if he wanted it. He accepted, and this time, I'm at peace.
We're moving on!!
DD, only child
End of TT/Full Disclosure 07/08/13
Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.
Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.
Posts: 230 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Here and there...
Member # 14866
| Posted: 10:14 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 53301 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 30024
| Posted: 10:36 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
I feel you and your H are making a wise decision for your marriage. That really is the priority.
I had read your earlier thread and agreed with the members advising you to get out of the school/job, whatever. I am so glad that their responses to your post got you to rethink what you and your H were doing.
I am glad that you're at peace. Just think, no more having to deal with OW. Woot woot!
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 10082 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 31349
| Posted: 10:41 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron
Posts: 18673 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 30727
| Posted: 10:52 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Good for you guys!!
"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."
Posts: 1361 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 31240
| Posted: 10:54 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
In following your story, I, too, thought moving would be better for you and your H.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 10747 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 35593
| Posted: 11:05 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013|
Good for you two. I hope te move gives you the peace you are looking for.
We will be moving to another state as soon as our house sells. It is scary to leave your home town, but we need a fresh place that is not tainted. My H already is working there and out of a home office.
Good luck and I hope the excitement transcends every part of your life.
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
Posts: 1610 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Member # 33867
| Posted: 1:16 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013|
I think that your decision is a wise one that you will not regret!
6 months post Dday we packed up and moved out; moved 1600 miles away. Best move we ever made. Instantly eliminated many, many triggers. It made R, and my life, easer.
Good luck to you.
ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
Posts: 2157 | Registered: Nov 2011
Member # 29295
| Posted: 4:46 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013|
Oh Nest I am so happy to see this. You are moving out and moving on!
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
Posts: 1902 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
Member # 30989
| Posted: 5:34 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013|
I can't even begin to tell you how glad I am to see this.
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 9137 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 39836
| Posted: 7:33 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013|
Woohoo! What great end of year news! I'm even a bit jealous about your fresh start.
Entering R slowly and cautiously...
Posts: 544 | Registered: Jul 2013
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