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Nest2007 posted 11/24/2013 22:12 PM

It's amazing how making the wrong decision helps you realize the right one: yesterday we decided to remain in our small town for another six months. Although I felt a degree of relief at that decision (job stability, not having to sell our home, support network) I didn't feel a peace about the decision. Fast forward to this morning when I received some great responses and advice after posting this thread:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=514566

Reading those replies from seasoned SIers made it all clear. We thought we'd blown our chance yesterday when my H declined a position. A quick phone call later revealed the job had not yet been offered to the other applicant, and was his if he wanted it. He accepted, and this time, I'm at peace.

We're moving on!!

MovingUpward posted 11/24/2013 22:14 PM

SisterMilkshake posted 11/24/2013 22:36 PM

I feel you and your H are making a wise decision for your marriage. That really is the priority.

I had read your earlier thread and agreed with the members advising you to get out of the school/job, whatever. I am so glad that their responses to your post got you to rethink what you and your H were doing.

I am glad that you're at peace. Just think, no more having to deal with OW. Woot woot!

Jrazz posted 11/24/2013 22:41 PM

Yaaaay!

Dark Inertia posted 11/24/2013 22:52 PM

Good for you guys!!

sisoon posted 11/24/2013 22:54 PM

Congratulations!

In following your story, I, too, thought moving would be better for you and your H.

Lovedyoumore posted 11/24/2013 23:05 PM

Good for you two. I hope te move gives you the peace you are looking for.

We will be moving to another state as soon as our house sells. It is scary to leave your home town, but we need a fresh place that is not tainted. My H already is working there and out of a home office.

Good luck and I hope the excitement transcends every part of your life.

RidingHealingRd posted 11/25/2013 01:16 AM

I think that your decision is a wise one that you will not regret!

6 months post Dday we packed up and moved out; moved 1600 miles away. Best move we ever made. Instantly eliminated many, many triggers. It made R, and my life, easer.

Good luck to you.

sinsof thefather posted 11/25/2013 04:46 AM

Oh Nest I am so happy to see this. You are moving out and moving on!

solus sto posted 11/25/2013 05:34 AM

I can't even begin to tell you how glad I am to see this.

ILINIA posted 11/25/2013 07:33 AM

Woohoo! What great end of year news! I'm even a bit jealous about your fresh start.