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bobf (original poster member #41412) posted at 1:00 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I have had responses to some of the things I posted about my wife's behavior and her OEA partner answered by things like, "see pg 42 of the cheater's manual".
I assumed this is sarcasm, but is there really some form of cheater's manual that someone published elsewhere?
If there is, I wonder if I should go look at it to find out what other things my wife or OEA partner might of done...
Me: BH early 50s
Her: fWW late 40s (kmom2662)
7 Wk OEA, Skype, Cyber
DDay 10-4-13
Married 20+ years
Currently in R
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 1:07 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Ha! My fault bob - for sending you on a search...
We hear the same stuff over and over - thousands of times, so we jokingly refer to a manual...
The '42' was a reference to 'the answer to everything'...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/42_%28number%29
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 3:06 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I have often referred to the "lists" given in a very prominent women's magazine and their website as a cheater manual for seduction by OW. I read one to my H the first time he "got it" concerning how he was duped into thinking it was the real thing. It was a sequential list on how to get a man into your bed. Sickening to see how he fell for every. single. line.
The cheater manual comments are sarcastic because most A follow a common script with maybe only 3 different scenarios. The commonness of it all makes it so ridiculous when it happens because all WS and AP think they are so special.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
Sleepy312 ( member #38360) posted at 3:14 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
@lovedyoumore...where can I find this list?
again after 7 years H blamed me for the affair.
Me 46
Dh 44
Married 16...he forgot our anniversary a while ago among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.
Together 20 years
Two great kids.
He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:40 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I've seen books advertised telling people how to cheat. Not so strangely, I can't cite any. (Usually, in a thread like this, I'd attempt to track down references, but I'm not gonna do that here.)
You don't need a book, though - just listen to what your WS says. It's all been said before. For examples, just turn on your TV....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 7:10 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
My favorite "from the cheaters manual".....ILYBINILWY...
I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You
yeah...heard that shit.... 
Standard line too....
Bufffalo
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