Take what you need and leave the rest.
wincings_sparkle - If it hurts, it is something worth looking at. If it makes you angry, it is something worth looking at. If it makes you cry, it is something worth looking at.
I was blasted in my first post on SI. It so happened that I was at a point where I was ready to hear it.
Also, newbies can have a valuable perspective too. And by participating in other threads, you can often times gain a better or different perspective on your own situation.