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User Topic: "Give me a break! I'm a recovering perv!"
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Happy  Posted: 9:30 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been a little bit nervous since my fWH recently reactivated his LinkedIn account. We talked about the reactivation and decided that it was necessary for his job hunt; however both of us had trepidation about it as well since it had become the MOWs 'go to' way of stalking. I'm happy to report that there have been no MOW sightings.

So, last night we were on his LIn account and fWH asked me to go into his email because he hadn't been on in a while. So I move over to that and notice that there are 100s of junk mail. Normally I just hit the 'delete all' button but the word "Boobs" jumped out at me. I opened it up and sure enough a big a@@ pair of boobs was staring at us both. It was a spam 'friend' request from F@ckbook.

I turned to my fWH and asked him to tell me about all of the sites that he use to visit, and with each name he got more and more flustered. I specifically asked about Ashley Madison and he admitted to window shopping on the site but never signed up because it was too expensive. My hackles rose and I went off on him. "I demanded to know how he could do such a thing?" etc, etc..His answer to my question stop me mid-tirade because it made me realize that we have been down this road before. He has answered my questions time and time again. I realized that I was getting mad for the sake of getting mad. Kind of like I was 'expected' to be angry.
His answer? "Give me a break! I'm a recovering perv!!"

After laughing together I made another discovery. I love this man and I've never been happier. I'm glad that I swallowed my pride for my DD's sake and gifted him with reconciliation. long as there is a pair of Uggs and a new zoom lens for my camera under the tree next month, this R thing will continue.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 440 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite line this week (after I triggered watching a flirting scene between animated turkeys in a kids' movie at the theater) was:

"I had less depth than a pixalated turkey."

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 3515 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
♀ 39000
Member # 39000
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I realized that I was getting mad for the sake of getting mad. Kind of like I was 'expected' to be angry.

Great catch. Your shared laughter in that moment is a testimony to the state of your R, and it's very encouraging to hear. Congratulations to you both :)

fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."

Posts: 1523 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: The First Coast
♀ 40769
Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great story!

We have codes for jokes that we make-
We will actually say, "too soon?" Right before we make the joke- if the answer is yes- then the joke goes unheard. If the answer is no, go ahead- then we both usually get a good chuckle followed by a hug.

It helps keep me sane sometimes.

Just call me Wonder

If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.

The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.

Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017

Posts: 1245 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
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Member # 40150
Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great story. Made me smile. Thanks

Him WH
2 kids elementary school age
Married 12 years
05/20/13 I confront and TT begins
07/01/13 The whole truth. Admits to EA/PA

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