We are at 10months from dday now and the jealous feelings are not as prevalent but they do creep in some.
How does your husband respond when you share that with him? I read that too and every time I tell him he says "you shouldn't be jealous of her. She is nothing compared to you". This makes me mad and I try to explain that of course I should be jealous. He chose to betray my trust and risk our marriage for this woman. He chose her over me in my opinion. How could I not be jealous of her??
I would explain to your husband how he could help you more if you have ideas for what you need from him.
For me I needed him to listen to me and validate my feelings. I think telling him when I feel jealous also helps build more empathy on his part.
I think I asked for too many details and now I can't help but think of when they had sex "here" or "there" etc, it just pops in once in a while.
We have been married for 25 years and I have never been with anyone else and he a couple girls in high school.
Not sure how to help but know that you're not alone in thinking this way.
You need to focus on you, and healing you. You could do nothing to change his choices, you are not responsible for his choices, and it hurts like hell, but until you can confidently say I know that I am a great woman, wife, lover, he is broken, you will feel jealous.
I remember the pain and upset and jealousy I felt that he chose to spend time with ow than with me, with his family, with his kids. Who does that? Why weren't we enough? I finally realized we were enough, it was him that wasn't, and that may me profoundly sad, because I knew it was completely out of my control to fix it. He had to do that himself. It took me being done, and showing him the door for him to realize this and start the hard work of healing and fixing himself.
I hope this makes some sense to you.