Tax purposes... sounds like a bs line, but then so does the EA. I've heard rumors of WS leaving the marriage for an EA - but it is usually just that - a rumor. Later it is revealed that a PA is in full swing... Course living with his brother is nice cover, and it isn't like you are going to pack 3 kids in the car and follow him... But if you have a good friend willing to do that - I'd tap them.
I'm not trying to make things worse hon, but making a decision on false information is never advised -- and I find it hard to believe he packed up and left for a "friend".
(Thefly)is right; whether or not you think its too soon, he obviously doesn't. Protect yourself, starting first thing tomorrow morning. You are dealing with someone who thought so little of you they cheated; once they cross that line, cheating you financially is no biggie either.
Its all business now---and you and the kids need to come first. Sending you strength and hugs!
So sorry you're in this position. The limbo land of knowing that it's over, but still not quite acceptingthat it's over, is an agonizing place to be.
I don't know about the tax issues etc but I tend to agree with the posters who are calling bull on that. And I also agree (gently) with those who say that your ex is making his intentions clear. Sad, tragic, hurtful... but clear.
For those of us that love with our whole hearts, and thought that our marriages were forever, divorce is always too soon. Someone much wiser than me posted on here somewhere that divorce is not what we want, but it is sometimes what is necessary.
Meeting with an attorney, protecting yourself and staying pro-active in the process is the best way to help yourself get through it. I know it's a shaky, scary bridge to walk across, but try to remember that healing lives on the other side.
Big hugs to ((you)).
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin