Me: Enjoying life
So sorry you're in this position. The limbo land of knowing that it's over, but still not quite acceptingthat it's over, is an agonizing place to be.
I don't know about the tax issues etc but I tend to agree with the posters who are calling bull on that. And I also agree (gently) with those who say that your ex is making his intentions clear. Sad, tragic, hurtful... but clear.
For those of us that love with our whole hearts, and thought that our marriages were forever, divorce is always too soon. Someone much wiser than me posted on here somewhere that divorce is not what we want, but it is sometimes what is necessary.
Meeting with an attorney, protecting yourself and staying pro-active in the process is the best way to help yourself get through it. I know it's a shaky, scary bridge to walk across, but try to remember that healing lives on the other side.
Big hugs to ((you)).
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords