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StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 4:11 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
My H's mistress must've had her baby. She posted a stupid picture. She is kissing at the camara, but she has a face like a man.
I knew she was pregnant. Should've known she had the baby, he's been sending me passive aggressive stupid emails and trying to provoke a fight for the last couple of days.
God, this shit hurts so damn bad and I'm at work sobbing like a pathetic idiot.
How can the sight of her and that baby hurt so much. I thought I was prepared and yet, here I am feeling like I was kicked in the gut.
Nothing would make me happier than a get out of jail free pass so I could go beat the shit out of her and wipe that pucker off her manly looking face.
Some consolation, the child is fugly. It took after it's mother.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 4:25 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
So sorry. You have my thoughts today. Crying is all we can do sometimes.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
stunnedin12 ( member #38141) posted at 4:26 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Oh my. I can not imagine the pain you are experiencing. I am so sorry. Just so sorry.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Lawyers involved.
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 4:28 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Shocked2believe ( member #41010) posted at 4:31 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
StillLivin
Let's hope she lives to regret her shameful mistake forever. She certainly wouldn't want a life like that for her little girl (should the baby be a girl of course). I'm sorry for your pain. (((Hugs)))
Me:BS Married 15 years
Him: WH - EA/PA with now married OW
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway and block the traffic"
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:38 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
(((StillLivin))) I am so sorry you are hurting. It takes quite awhile for all this shit to not hurt us anymore. It hasn't been that long for you (I am sure it feels like an eternity, though), be kind and gentle with yourself. Cry and let it out. You have a reason to cry and hurt. I wish all of us here could take some of the pain for you, it is so hard to read of a fellow members pain and only have words to give.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:46 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
((((SL))))
Sorry you had to see it. That's darling that the new mom is making duckface at the camera, nothing says I'm ready to be a good mom like tryinig to look like a whore in your post partum pictures.
(I am ripping on her to help you feel better I hope its' working).
Poor baby, what a great way to grow up.....
Remember to be kind to yourself today, and allow yourself to grieve, but then go do something that makes you realize how lucky you are that you don't have to put up with the Twit anymore.
((((and strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
prowoman ( member #40761) posted at 4:53 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
((StillLivin))
In disbelief of the mess these people can create. What a horrible situation for everyone involved. I feel your pain, and see the same shit coming in my future. Wish I could do more for you! Know we're here for you rooting for you and get what you're going through. Sending strength and good thoughts.
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 4:54 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Thank you, my SI family. None of my friends understand how I can be so strong for all these months and have a complete breakdown. The feel I should have been over this enough not to care. Only my sister understands, she lived through this crap too in a previous marriage.
Friends that haven't been through this think that just because someone is strong that stuff can't still get to them. I'm not the bionic woman. I'm just not.
(I am ripping on her to help you feel better I hope its' working).
And yes, tushnurse, it did kind of bring a snicker.
Got my sister sending me encouraging emails too now.
She says she hates them both. I love her, she hates who I hate.
I'm taking my break and going to mail the SI glitter cards for Christmas to DS and MH now.
I hope I can fake it when I get back.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
plainpain ( member #40139) posted at 6:54 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
I'm so sorry, StillLivin. I completely get it - it's just the betrayal that keeps on giving. I am dreading that moment myself - I just creeped my H's OW FB page, and her profile pic is of her about 8 months pregnant. Smiling. Dressed like a respectable lady. A year ago, she was bra-less, making bedroom eyes at the camera. It makes me want to hurl, for sure.
Me: Believer, 40s
Him: Liar, 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R. It only hurts now when it rains.
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 6:59 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
plainpain,
I'm sorry. I know how much this hurts. I should have left well enough alone and not creeped her FB page. He's been sending a whole crap load of passive aggressive, and some not so passive emails. I started wondering why all of a sudden he was being such a jerk again...and I creeped. I've only looked at her FB page 1X in the past 5 to 6 months.
Don't go on her FB page. It will crush you.
He tells me he is happier with her. Well then, if he is so f...ing happy why are you working so hard to hurt me! I didn't do anything but be good and loving to him.
(((plainpain))) more hugs back at you!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 7:50 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
(((((StillLivin)))))
I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have your sister. They are awesome, aren't they?
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 8:02 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
He tells me he is happier with her.
Then there is the door! FTG.
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 8:42 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
OMG...ok I know I'm supposed to be NC. But...
Let me back up. He finally admitted that he wanted me to "believe" she was pregnant because he wanted to hurt me.
I cannot have children, several miscarriages...see!
She posted a pix of her and her infant nephew from like 3-4 months ago just to mess with my head.
So here is what i sent him when he finally emailed me the truth.
WTF, she is really just that gross? No f...ing way! NO WAY! She is NOT pregnant???????
Even the PI thought she was either morbidly obese or seven months pregnant. He called her fluffy. Ain't that a hoot!
Bwahahahahaah. OMG. Thank you, sweetie, you completely made my day!
So let me get this straight, you threw away your beautiful wife who has had your back for over 20 years. The one who stuck by your side through thick and thin. You know, who kept you from going to prison when cray cray was in the picture still! The one that nursed you and your sons whenever you got sick. The one that did your resumes and applications. You know, basically had your back and was a partner in the true sense of the word. Who pretty much waited on you hand and foot and absolutely adored you...yeah, her! You traded your beautiful wife in for Princess Chewbaca, who looks like a troll with troll hands and feet, and says shit like people persons peoples.
Yeah, and that was a smart move how?
Oh, wait, I forgot, she is devout. She devoutly snuck around with a married man who was living with his wife. Yep, Miss Virtuous...oh wait, I'm the only one with virute here!
OMG I can NOT stop laughing!
Hey, so how is the job searching going? Is Shrek helping you with your resumes and job applications? Is she networking and putting out hard copies of your resumes?
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 8:44 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Oh, and I wanted to thank you guys! Really. I was in so much pain this morning. It even surprised ME that I could feel that.
I'm done with his crap. Now, I'm hoping she tricks him and gets pregnant on purpose!
I think I'm back on track today!
Mailed off the SI Christmas glitter cards!!!1
Woot woot!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 8:58 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
I think I'm back on track today!
So glad to hear this.
StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 9:06 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
So glad to hear this.
Thank you, Brandon808!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 9:16 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
anewday78 ( member #39357) posted at 9:25 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
Some consolation, the child is fugly. It took after it's mother.
I'm sorry, SL, that was freakin' great!
On a more serious note - (((StillLivin)))
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 9:30 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013
OMG, This is completely insane! You need to get far,far away from this crazy. Kids don't even play games this pathetic. Run!
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
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