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She updated her profile picture - it's a photo of her 8 months pregnant. She's chopped her hair, she's dressed like an actual LADY, boobs all covered up and everything. I guess porno hair, spaghetti straps and bedroom eyes don't scream, 'Mommy'. I hate her so much. Who does she think she's fooling? She's 22, alone and rejected, pregnant by a married man who wishes he'd never set eyes on her. That's going to stay the truth, whatever kind of sweater she wears. She fricking knows the difference between whore-ness and respectability, as evidenced by this photo. I hate her and her infectious vagina and her 'I can't get pregnant' womb and her stupid cow face. I can't believe my H thought having a piece of that was worth causing me this much pain, was worth risking my life, was worth risking his family. I wish I had all the vagina pictures she sent to my H, so I could put them on Homewreckers. Oh, poor, poor, badly treated cow plop head. Her baby daddy runned oft on her. Wah wah. FUCK HER.

I want to wake up now.

Yes she's stupid and deserves the shitty life it sounds like she's going to have.

I hate OM, too.

Having said that, please focus on your WH. It's hard for me to accept it, too, but that's the constructive thing to do.

Good luck and stay strong.

I guess she knows how to change her image, but that doesn't change that her soul is decayed and full of rottenness and bowel fluids!

I know this is such a difficult time for you, (((((plainpain))))).

You are not alone.

Plainpain,

I know your pain. I am just sending you a giant hug! Believe me when I say that everyone knows what a freaking loser she is regardless of how she looks on the outside. Once I saw OW and spoke with her I thought...wtf...really for that???

I am sure you are a much better person, mother, and the type of woman she can only dream of being.

Oh plainpain...

I just send you hugs. You did not deserve any of this.

((((Plainpain)))))

I don't know whether I'm a better person or not - I know I have a conscience. I know I feel badly for even calling her a cow plop head. What have cows ever done to me?

I HATE that my H probably looks like the 'bad guy' for dumping OW, but NOT for cheating on his faithfully supportive, adoring, trusting, heartsmashed wife of 18 years. Being the good guy here would mean what? NOT getting his head out of his ass and doing a 180 back to me? Not telling his wife, and just continuing on with a secret mistress and child for the next 20 years? Abandoning his wife and three children to run off with a cow plop head??

Who cares that she sent him pictures of her vajayjay. Who cares that she persisted and persisted until he finally gave in. Who cares that she brought this whole thing on herself on purpose, knowing full well that he was married and happy in his marriage. Who cares that she told him she couldn't get pregnant. Who cares that she offered to have an abortion, and he begged her not to. Who cares that he will spend the next 18-20 years paying for his mistake financially. Who cares that it is going to take everything we have to find a way through this as a couple and as a family.

None of that matters. He's an old married man who knocked up a 22 year old - used her and then abandoned her. That's the story.

[This message edited by plainpain at 6:33 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]

(((((plainpain))))) I'm so sorry you are hurting. I'm so sorry your H did such a selfish, stupid thing.

With regards to OW, FTG (FeckThatGirl)

HBH

eta: did you forward the pics of her vajayjay to her parents? At least it would help them realize your H is not the bad guy, he was chased hard before he decided to stop running.

[This message edited by HurtButHopeful? at 6:51 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]

I never saw the pics. I smashed his phone, before I had the thought that I might need all of that 'stuff' at some point. Even if I had, she doesn't have 'parents'. She has a single mom, who had an affair with an older married man at around the age of 21, got pregnant, and hit him up for CS. She never knew her dad; her mom was holding the other end of the phone, rubbing her hands together, when I was talking to OW about getting paternity tests and settling custody. Not sure who in her life of trampy tramps would even care. All of her friends appear to be holding babies, too. Birds of a feather. If I were a cold, unfeeling b*tch with no morals and no concern for the innocent, I would save them to send to her son on his 18th birthday. Here kid. Here's your mom. Here's the story of your life. Happy birthday.

"Stupid Pregnant Cow Plop Head OW" is, without a doubt, one of THE best descriptions I've read in years. I salute you!

Plainpain,

You are the better woman bc even with all the pain this has caused you, you still feel bad about calling her a name and worry about OC.

You are certainly better than me as I am keeping all their texts, and other messages. Not only for OC but for my 2DD as well. Two liars are not going to tell this story. I will!

I totally understand your anger. Thank God my ws had a vasectomy. It would surely be the end of me if there were an oc. I do feel so bad for the babies though. Not fair to them to.be brought into this world under those circumstances.

I am feeling calmer today. I know I have to just focus on my marriage, and not expend energy on hating her. It's so hard sometimes - it washes over me in a wave. I have never hated anybody - not even the man who raped me. I have a problem with over-empathizing. But I hate this woman, and it is taking everything in me to just let go of that. She has taken EVERYTHING from me. She did everything with my H that we did together. She literally stepped into my life and replaced me - even if just in playland. Now she gets to be 'the mother of his children'? What do I have of him, that she hasn't had? His heart? Woohee! Score!

Sometimes I just want to lay down and die.

You sound to me like a very good person, who has been presented with more pain than you can handle or understand.

Your anger is very understandable. I have it too.

But I respect that you come her and vent, but don't allow the situation to change who you are.

Your husband did everything with her that you did together. He's the one who took the special out of your marriage. Focus on him to make sure he doesn't put you through this pain again years down the road.

I understand your pain, but checking up on her and having hate and anger towards her won't help you heal.

Hugs to you.