So I just saw phone records.
WH exchanged 70-100 texts a month in August and September with a woman named K, often pic/video, often late at night. Often when I was home. Stopped early October.
This was not his 1 year long AP. This is a work colleague with whom he admitted sexing after DD for the 1 year affair.
I asked him to go NC last December. He promised to do so. But he continue through end of the January when I found out because the texts came to my phone by mistake. Once again, he promised to go NC sort of, but said he couldn't do it completely since they were obligated to continue to do some work together, wrapping up a project ... and anyway she was in another city far away. But he did promise to minimize contact and go professional all the way.
Even without his recent wayward history, I don't believe that late night texting at that quantity with pics is professional or minimal.
BTW,I can't see the texts. He deleted them all. Phone records only show the numbers and times, not the texts themselves.
When I called to confront, he offered to send NC letter #3. OMG.
1. How big a deal is this?
2. Clearly he is unable to maintain boundaries. And this with someone he says he isn't attracted to - what happens when he is attracted to the person.
3. I can't divorce. Trust me I have good reason. Has anyone ever considered saying - okay we can live together as co-parents and friends, but romantically and sexually just be independent. That is sounding mighty good right now.
I can't handle any more anger or stress.
Am going to meet him for a convo in one hour.