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User Topic: Why don't they have divorce registries like wedding registries?
gardens64
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got an invitation to a wedding which was requesting "honeyfunds" as a wedding gift, basically cash for the honeymoon. I thought wedding gifts were for a couple to start a new life? Oh well. I was thinking I had a really simple wedding but I could sure use a divorce registry right now! Instead of "honeyfunds" how about "lawyer funds", "discovery funds", and hey I might need some stuff for a new place!

Posts: 57 | Registered: Feb 2013
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LMAO!

Do you think people would contribute to my lawyer fund?


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep! I sure could use a lawyer fund! And a home repair fund to get the gutters cleaned out.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10153 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
neverbeokay
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Default  Posted: 5:23 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought about this a lot at the last company I worked for, it was filled with 20 and 30 somethings and every other month I would get hit up for a wedding or baby gift for someone I barely knew. My wedding and babies were far behind me so I knew there would never be a gift for me.

It reminds me of the SATC episode where Carrie does a wedding registry for herself to get a pair of Manolo shoes. Kind of crass but it did make the point.


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell, I just wanted someone to bring over a damn casserole...I didn't even get food after the death of my M!!

But I do like your idea. We could start a new trend


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great idea!

Hell, I just wanted someone to bring over a damn casserole...I didn't even get food after the death of my M!!


I edit - because I hate misspellings or grammar mistakes.

Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


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LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol, now that's a great idea!


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually had a discussion with a group of my girlfriends about this topic-- one of their husbands got diagnosed with cancer about a year after my dday. Everyone knew what I was going through- I didn't hide it from them.

The girls rallied around this family, drove kids to school/practices, cleaned her house, babysat, did grocery shopping and made a meal calendar so 5 nights a week this family had a hot dinner delivered.

Me? Nothing. Not even phone calls to see how it was going. (Which I do understand-- back then it was on/off so much.)

I told them how much that had hurt me at the time. Not one has been through infidelity and said they had no idea.

I said it was a death for me. The death of my marriage. The death of my husband. The death of my family unit. :(

Makes me get mad thinking about it still. They did feel horrible, and are all super supportive, but they just didn't know better.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I brought this up some time ago. I think divorce showers are a great idea--both men and women. It's tough starting over again, especially when you're leaving your memories behind. A good party with lots of alcohol and some handy household items would be nice.

It still tugs at my heart when I go into a housewares department and think about the nice things I had before I moved out. But then I get over it by thinking about the 280 lb. item I left behind.


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

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gardens64
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes it really is like a death but we have to soldier through like it is not. It is hurtful I agree. My close friends are very supportive but that broad community support is missing...

LMAO at the 280 lb item left behind!

Let's see, I could use a casserole, or a cake! A massage would also be nice! Or a weekend getaway. Can I register for that?


Posts: 57 | Registered: Feb 2013
Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell, I just wanted someone to bring over a damn casserole...I didn't even get food after the death of my M!!

^^^^ This !!!!

That was my biggest shock is how people didn't do this. Especially when I was going thru the I can't eat phase and still had mouths to feed. It was always "call me anytime you need to talk". Just bring me some food that I can throw down at the dinner table, dangit

Divorce Registry? I love it!


Everyday is a blank canvas, and only you hold the brush.
30y M traded in for a POM (pathetic Old Maid 46, 2 kids from different dads. never married)
S 11/11, D final 1/14.

Posts: 1457 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Suburbia, Arizona
Charity411
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great idea. I know some people have divorce parties. I went to one. Believe it or not both the husband and wife were there.

What I really think is a great idea is the lawyer funds thing. It's not such a stretch. Think about the fact that people donated to the Jodi Arias defense fund. Just sayin.


Posts: 413 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Illinois
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