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Topic: I have 7 days...could he b telling truth
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confused52204
♀ 16913
Member # 16913 |  Posted: 9:01 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013 |     |
Omg I have made a mess from this situation. I've become mean bitter and worst of all I told a couple of friends. This situation has now spiraled downward. He's leaving in a few days. He hates me and says he never wants to c me again. He went in CL for 2 years abc since I can't c past it I've become mean and selfish. I feel like everyone should feel sorry for me and I'm ok w telling anyone who will listen . I'm pathetic!
Posts: 526 | Registered: Nov 2007 |
HurtsButImOK
♀ 38865
Member # 38865 | | Posted: 9:18 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
You are not pathetic. You are in pain and it is understandable to at times lash out.
Now is the time to take control of your life. He wants out tell him "see ya, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out".
You can only control yourself, you cant make him do more or be more. You can however choose to not let this terrible thing define your life and your happiness. It takes time and hard work but life will be good and full of joy again.
(((confused52204)))
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia |
persevere
♀ 31468
Member # 31468 | | Posted: 9:48 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
Best advice I ever received from my therapist - "Remember to be kind to yourself." You've been through a traumatic event, of course you're going to react. So cut yourself a little slack. [This message edited by persevere at 9:48 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]
Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 4836 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
Member # 34823 | | Posted: 9:52 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
It sure sounds as if someone is giving you some brain damage and making you doubt yourself.....
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 8437 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest |
momentintime
♀ 16394
Member # 16394 | | Posted: 12:46 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
He doesn't want people to know what a lowlife he is, so he trashes you because of his actions. Don't listen to his drivel.
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
Posts: 3070 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York |
confused52204
♀ 16913
Member # 16913 | | Posted: 8:10 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Thing is this is my choice I want out. He wants to stay.
Posts: 526 | Registered: Nov 2007 |
WeepingBuddhist
♀ 39139
Member # 39139 | | Posted: 10:08 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
of course he wants to stay put! Who wouldn't want to stay where there is someone doing everything s/he can to make you happy? How much does he worry about you and making you feel safe and happy?
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Posts: 735 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 10:34 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
You are not pathetic and you have not made a mess of ANYTHING.
You were handed a big plate of shit, and now you're bitter and mean because you refuse to accept the shit with a smile on your face?
Nope. No way. No how.
Strength to you, honey. ((((confused52204))))
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28276 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
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