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User Topic: Holidays will never be the same....
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I mean it in a good way.

The firsts, after dday sucked.

But we are a long way past those. I am exhausted, working night shift this week and hosting Thanksgiving dinner.

My husband and I went grocery shopping (first run) on Sunday. Had a list, in and out in under an hour.

Today he and my daughter (23) went to the store for list #2. I was in a sleep-deprived coma and trying to get some baking done.

They came home from the store and we were all in the kitchen. I was making them a quickie bite to eat and we were all navigating a recipe for homemade Sangria. Daughter, husband and I were all laughing at something and I got goosebumps with the picture of us...

There was no stress in that room. Two days before a holiday and we are planned, organized, working together and actually having fun doing it.

We were a Norman Fucking Rockwell painting! (well leave out the booze )

And like I do every so often I looked up to the heavens and just said...Thanks.

What a difference time and healing make.

Bless all of you this week as we head into a busy holiday season. For those of you just starting on this journey, be good to yourselves.

Love and hope to everyone.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice! So glad you took a moment to look upward and give thanks for a simple, yet wonderful experience.
Take care


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 502 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
iwillNOT
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing this. I am facing down the first Thanksgiving since I found out, it's A season and I am not holding up well. It's a comfort to think maybe. It won't always be so hard.


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 514 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
catatonic
40758
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Default  Posted: 1:40 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing
It is a nice feeling when you are relaxed and able to enjoy the Holiday.
This is my first Thanksgiving since DDay and I'm not feeling real good going into it.
Hope you get some rest" karmahappens"
We can always be thankful fir something.

Posts: 113 | Registered: Sep 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:42 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Thanksgiving, my soul sister .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome post.

Happy Turkey day to you and yours.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8798 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was no stress in that room. Two days before a holiday and we are planned, organized, working together and actually having fun doing it.

That is so nice for you. I so hope to one day feel this way. Scratch that... As much as I would like that experience, I would much rather hear those words from my BW.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

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RipsInMyChest
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow....thanks, I needed that! Thanksgiving will always be sandwiched between the day of my H's ONS(11/17) and my d-day. I have been feeling down as this is our first go around.

This time last year my husband had withdrawn due to guilt and I was feeling like a crappy wife because he had pulled back from me. He didn't participate in Christmas decorating or any of the early parts of the season.

I just told him last night that I feel my favorite time of the year has been tainted forever.... It's good to hear that forever might not be as long as I think it will be.


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 284 | Registered: Oct 2013
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's good to hear that forever might not be as long as I think it will be.

(((hugs)))

It really can get better, and even better than pre A days.

Hang in there, I know this first one is so difficult.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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wert
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We were a Norman Fucking Rockwell painting! (well leave out the booze )

Why do you think they were always smiling...probably the kids too...

take care...



Posts: 1447 | Registered: Jan 2012
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do you think they were always smiling...probably the kids too...

^^^ true ^^^ and wert!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wert totally stole my joke! lol

It's a lovely picture, Karma and one you fully deserve.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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unfound
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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