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User Topic: Gift?
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would you choose a practical gift but reasonable over a gift card that is slightly more unreasonable to give to someone for the holidays?

I am stretched this year so I would choose the practical gift but it is less exciting. It is the holiday so maybe it can work.

Never had debt before so this is new. I am leaning towards the gift card but I don't think I can swing it without taking something from my family's gifts.

Thank you!


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you should spend what you're willing (and able) to spend and that the receiver of the gift should be gracious regardless.


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Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you have to worry about the value of the gift, maybe you should re-evaluate the friendship.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you are stretched financially, have you considered something less expensive but more personal?

I have done picture collages in the past for family members, and they love it. It's thoughtful, and if it's pic's you have they probably don't, and it's a fun way to have those memories.

Family and friends will be happy with whatever you give them, and if they aren't to damn bad.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about the practical gift with a little bag of Lindt truffles? CVS has them 2 for $6. (Not that I've bought and eaten any.)

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you have to worry about the value of the gift, maybe you should re-evaluate the friendship.

^^^This

I love receiving practical gifts. Give me a bag of my favorite coffee or box of tea, a bottle of Oil of Olay moisturizer and cleanser that I use daily, a basil plant because you know I love basil, a wedge of my favorite cheese and specialty crackers, etc... I don't want anybody to spend a lot of money on a gift for me. It just isn't necessary.


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the ideas!

I think it is more I use to have the luxury of doing fun and unexpected things for people.

The gift in spirit is fun but practical. Then I heard the persons mention to someone they would love to go to X place.

I think I will stick with the practical gift. It is better for me and it was meant for fun before I heard what they really were excited about.

Happy Thanksgiving to all!


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