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User Topic: Gift?
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would you choose a practical gift but reasonable over a gift card that is slightly more unreasonable to give to someone for the holidays?

I am stretched this year so I would choose the practical gift but it is less exciting. It is the holiday so maybe it can work.

Never had debt before so this is new. I am leaning towards the gift card but I don't think I can swing it without taking something from my family's gifts.

Thank you!


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you should spend what you're willing (and able) to spend and that the receiver of the gift should be gracious regardless.


Me - 45
DD(24), DS(21, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you have to worry about the value of the gift, maybe you should re-evaluate the friendship.


You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you are stretched financially, have you considered something less expensive but more personal?

I have done picture collages in the past for family members, and they love it. It's thoughtful, and if it's pic's you have they probably don't, and it's a fun way to have those memories.

Family and friends will be happy with whatever you give them, and if they aren't to damn bad.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13095 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about the practical gift with a little bag of Lindt truffles? CVS has them 2 for $6. (Not that I've bought and eaten any.)

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you have to worry about the value of the gift, maybe you should re-evaluate the friendship.

^^^This

I love receiving practical gifts. Give me a bag of my favorite coffee or box of tea, a bottle of Oil of Olay moisturizer and cleanser that I use daily, a basil plant because you know I love basil, a wedge of my favorite cheese and specialty crackers, etc... I don't want anybody to spend a lot of money on a gift for me. It just isn't necessary.


A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.

If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the ideas!

I think it is more I use to have the luxury of doing fun and unexpected things for people.

The gift in spirit is fun but practical. Then I heard the persons mention to someone they would love to go to X place.

I think I will stick with the practical gift. It is better for me and it was meant for fun before I heard what they really were excited about.

Happy Thanksgiving to all!


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