"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Your post spoke to me.
My husband is paralyzed from the armpits down. He was already disabled when I met him. We have been married over 25 years.
Here is the deal with me. I chose him to marry. I knew it would be a hardship at times. I knew he could never walk down the beach with me or carry me to bed if I fell asleep on the couch. But I chose him over anyone else who was fully able-bodied.
Not only did I have to do all of these 'extra' things for him, but then he was unfaithful. He thinks it is awful to consider his disability when I measure my pain at his betrayal - but I do. Somehow, right or wrong, I feel more betrayed because of all I have done 'extra' for him, and all I have done without.
At any rate, my point is that I, like your husband, have delt with health issues of my spouse - PLUS INFIDELITY - and I didn't betray him. I have not cheated on him. I have not left.
Your health issues are ZERO excuse for his behavior. Period.
HUGS TO YOU!
ps On the subject of health, have you tried juicing? Read up on it. It can be a lifesaver for energy and overall health.
Sending you strength.
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy