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My Fellow D/Sep People...Let's Make the Most of this Holiday

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NewMom0220 posted 11/27/2013 15:43 PM

To all my fellow SI Divorce/Seperation buddies,

I wish you the best Thanksgiving possible. I know a lot of you are hurting, tired, fed up, sad, triggering, or having to split time with your kids or spend the holiday doing things differently than you normally do.

I say, let's make the most of it. Let's be around people who lift us up. If you have to have a pity party, set aside a few minutes and do it, but focus on the many blessings you currently have and the ones that are coming your way. If you have to be around annoying family that say the wrong things or are so opinionated they have to give you their well meaning advice...roll your eyes and think of all of us who are doing the same.

If you have to split time with your kids...or won't be with your kids this holiday...take a deep breath...it's just a part of our new normal.

If you are thinking of what your in-laws and your STBX are doing or saying tomorrow or what the gathering is like without you there this year...envision them with a burnt turkey and runny mash potatoes.

Let's make the most of it. Wishing ALL of you magnificent people a wonderful holiday. I read your posts and think how did all of these intelligent, wonderful, and caring people end up here. Then I think, wow, that's a ton of newly single people back in the dating pool...so look forward to a bright future with more good people and new beginnings in the horizon.

ETA: I count all of the posters who share their stories and/or comment on my posts as one of my many blessings. I've learned more on this site than I have from any IC, MC, Attorney, or well meaning advice giving family member or friend. Thanks a bunch for your support.

Lots of Love to you,

Newmom0220

[This message edited by NewMom0220 at 3:52 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]

nowiknow23 posted 11/27/2013 15:49 PM

Hear, hear!

StillLivin posted 11/27/2013 15:54 PM

Woot woot!
And lots of love back at you NewMom0220! You've helped me and so have the others. Time for me to pay it forward!

welcome14 posted 11/27/2013 17:37 PM

Amen! And may God bless us, every one! Oh, shoot, I may have been a bit early for that one, eh? Just repeat it to yourselves after the turkey....and then giggle and make everyone wonder..

Chrysalis123 posted 11/27/2013 17:39 PM

Thank you for this!

Thefly559 posted 11/27/2013 19:42 PM

Yes. Great post thank you

Tripletrouble posted 11/27/2013 20:04 PM

I lift a glass to you all and count SI and the awesome members amongst the greatest of my blessings this year.

Gemini71 posted 11/28/2013 00:12 AM

Excellent idea. Here's what I'm thankful for this year.

1. Spending Thanksgiving with my side of the family for the first time in a long time.
2. Christmas cookies that DON'T have anise in them (it's a northern Italian thing).
3. I am not unknowingly living a lie with a WH that's giving me STDs.
4. When the kids come home from their grandparents' house, I'M the one they call home.
5. Knowing that I have done nothing to be ashamed of. I have learned from all the supporters on SI that his cheating had NOTHING to do with me. I was not too depressed, too fat, too tired, or too busy. He was just too stupid.
6. And last, but not least: STBXH left the cat in his apartment for four days with no one to clean the litter box, and I KNOW for a fact that after three days accumulation, kitty will start pooping on the bed. Bwahaha!

PurpleRose posted 11/28/2013 00:34 AM

One of many things I am grateful for this year- all the support from this site. :)

Happy Thanksgiving!

jackie89 posted 11/28/2013 05:36 AM

great post! needed to hear that!

5. Knowing that I have done nothing to be ashamed of. I have learned from all the supporters on SI that his cheating had NOTHING to do with me. I was not too depressed, too fat, too tired, or too busy. He was just too stupid.
6. And last, but not least: STBXH left the cat in his apartment for four days with no one to clean the litter box, and I KNOW for a fact that after three days accumulation, kitty will start pooping on the bed. Bwahaha!

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