SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

For those who have already divorced, how long was it from DDay till your divorce was final?

Roughly five months. Took 2 months to file, 90 day mandated waiting period, divorced on the 91st day.

Almost one year to the day.

I confronted December 1st 2012.

Ten months trying to reconcile, then OW3 found under a rock, and then a quick divorce by mutually agreed legal separation and dissolution. Basically I paid him off and used a lot of leverage to get him to agree eg. agreeing not to tell anyone about his activities.

Contested divorced takes a lot longer unfortunately.

We tried R first - so DD was nearly 3 years before S, D was final 8 months later.

19 months. D-Day, then 7 months of TT, lies, further cheating, financial destruction... all on him. D-Day, then 7 months of listening to his BS, promises, sob fests as to how sorry he was & how much he loved me and me believing so much of his crap....that's all on me. Then a year of separation prior to the actual D hearing. Had I found SI 6 months earlier, had I realized what I was up against, it wouldn't have taken that long.

34 days.

April 10 was Dday. I confronted him on April 12. On April 20 he moved out and directly in with her. Never an ounce of remorse, guilt, regret or anything else resembling a true human emotion. We filed jointly, though of course I had to do all the work.... Six days later it was over.

Here on SI they say this type of ending is really a gift, vs months or years of more lies and pain. I hope someday to get to the point where I feel that way. For now, it's still a deep sharp cut that hasn't healed yet.

Technically, about 18 months, but that's only because I needed XWH's insurance until this past fall. If we had been able to D right away, it would likely have been more like four months-- I found out Oct. 2011, and the legal separation agreement was complete by Feb. 2012. Because of the health insurance, though, the D wasn't final until June 2013.

30 months post DDay

21 months post filing, tossing him & his shit to the curb, and having him served.

726 days.

Dday was August 13, 2011
Divorce was final August 9, 2013. (My 15th wedding anniversary. )

10 months.
And it would have been sooner if he hadn't dragged it out.

DDay 1 7/26/13
DDay 2 8/7/13 Deal Breaker
Filed 9/4/13
First Court Date 12/5/13, I was hoping to have everything in line by then, but it isn't going to happen.

DD 5/16/10
Tried to R for 3 years (way too long)
Filed and in-house separation 6/29/13
D final 9/25/13
Moved out into new house 10/7/13

D Day #1- Thanksgiving 2008

Separated April 2011

Still waiting for divorce

Divorce granted 4 months after DDay round 2, 31 days post filing. My goal was to not to endure another wedding anniversary (especially since XWH admitted to what I refer to as sexcations while on business trips, one of which was 10 days before our 20th anniversary ). Goal met!

I confronted in early May of 2010, endured about 15 months of false R, filed in October of 2011, divorce final in March or May (one of those "M" months, lol) of 2012. So, two years?

1 1/2 years. It was a mess. :(

I tried to R for 2 years after the first DDay. I filed in mid June, D was final in early November, so about 5.5 months.

With a second DDay between filing and final D.

8 months for me. I spent the first four hoping she would come back. After I finally filed, a combination of paperwork errors and her dragging her feet made it last longer than it should have.

She was on a trip to"clear her head". 8 found out about the OM the day after she left. Filed a few days later. It's been 3 months and our pre divorce hearing is 21 January

About 13 months.