So this means I have been the communication conduit between XPOS and the kids, who are worried sick about their beloved grandma. I HATE talking to him, and I HATE being put in this position, but it is easier for XPOS to relay information to me and for me to contact the kids.
I have been in such a good place mentally, and now I feel like I am taking steps back. Yet for my children I will suck it up and do it. Now I am constantly waiting for update calls and I am on edge. My kids can't handle direct calls and need my calm interpretation of what is going on to help them cope.
THIS SUCKS and I have no idea how long this will go on!!!
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 1:19 AM, November 28th (Thursday)]
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
Your children are not overly young. One of them could easily be the go-between for the rest of the family, perhaps the eldest. I don't think you need to make it easier for your ex.
However, you are the best judge of what is the best and right way to handle this as you know your children and what they can handle.
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
Whatever ends up happening this is just a pause - not a detour. This is just a setback - once this is sorted you can get back to NC and healing.
I get it. I loathe communicating with him - I can't imagine a phone call, several phone calls, under such stressful circumstances.
Sending you strength - you will get through this.
After the crisis has passed you can go back to NC. treat this as a necessary evil that is finite in time.
((((Phoenix and kids))))
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
One of them could easily be the go-between for the rest of the family, perhaps the eldest. I don't think you need to make it easier for your ex.
Doing this strictly for the kids, not XPOS. Oldest DD is not emotionally capable of handling it right now as she is close to her grandma and this is affecting her very badly. Son is hard to get a hold of because of military obligations. XPOS can't call from inside hospital and he is having phone issues as well and texting is a fail. This is all for my kids' benefit and I keep reminding myself of that.
XMIL has been moved to the ICU as she has developed a fever that they think is in her abdomen.
It's for the kids, it's for the kids, it's for the kids.…..
All the best to XMIL and your kids.
"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Last phone convo with XPOS he started to talk about his phone problems. My response, "how unfortunate." Doing my best to keep the discussions strictly about condition of XMIL.
Lord, this is taking an emotional toll on me...