But his video game has a character called The Faceless Void. And since the prostitute is faceless to me (her face is edited out of her pictures on her escort website), it triggered me... i almost threw my ipad across the room... We talked about it, he answered my questions, his memory was triggered on some details, he cried. Now he's playing his game... And I am here typing on a message board about infidelity.
Can you try to reclaim the evening? Have him put up the video game...and play a board game or cards together? Go for an evening walk? Recapture some of the good day? How about him not playing that game? Is than an option?
Take care of yourself and be gentle. This is part of the roller coaster. It is just so painful.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
We are about to reclaim the day
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
My h is terrified of IC. He's a feeling stuffer... I think he's terrified of FEELINGS. Which likely led us here, in the first place. The talking we are doing... Is creating real intimacy between us. Like... For the first time since we've been together. But.. It's not enough. He has to reject everything he knew about sex, and learn it all over. (Abuse survivor) I need (and he needs) more than "I hate what I have done and won't do it again." I took that at face value before. He's open to MC, so maybe that will help ease him into IC.
