Thanksgiving used to always be a big tradition at our home. We were usually the hosts for the family gathering. My Mother died in early 2009 and my FWH started his A in August 2009. He was in the middle of it in Nov 2009. We went to our son's home that year for Thanksgiving. They typically celebrated with friends and not family. It was very obvious that we crimped the party (i.e. no pot allowed with parents around).We haven't been back for Thanksgiving. Not to mention FWH was being an a$$ that day to me. Since then we have moved farther away from our family for employment.
It is now 2013. We had a very nice, quiet day with the just the 2 of us. Our daughter was working and we will do a family dinner tomorrow. It has been a very nice day. The pain is gone. We did briefly speak of it today. During our blessing tonight at dinner, he thanked God for me giving him another chance, and he was choking up during his prayer.
I tell this story to those that are just experiencing the pain of betrayal for your first holiday season. It does get better. It is possible to have a holiday without the A dominating everything about the day. R is possible if FWS is committed to trying.
SI has made a huge impact in my life and recovery. I only wished I had found them when I was dealing with the A. There is so much support and wisdom. I am very Thankful that the wonderful people here offer so much support.