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welcome14 posted 11/29/2013 01:30 AM

We made it! We got through Thanksgiving for another year. Yay us! I remember Thanksgiving four years ago, I had just found out. I was supposed to host my daughter, her boyfriend, a soldier that worked for me and her two kids and husband and my son, his wife and my two grandkids. Two days before, my daughter decided to have dinner at her boyfriend's mother's house. My son decided to stay home with his inlaws. The day before the soldier said her husband was smoking a turkey and they weren't coming.
So, I was alone, with a thawed and brined turkey in the fridge. I decided to go to the river, the boat launch where XWF and I had fished so many times, and I cried, oh, how I cried, over all the loss in my life. I had a runaway XWF. He told me ILYBINILWY, he loved her, a woman he had only met on the internet.
While I was there at the launch, crying and grieving, my daughter called. She wanted to be home with me, and have dinner. Then my son called to say that he, my DIL and my two grandbabies were coming for dinner. Then the soldier called and said her, her husband and their two kids were coming. At 10:00 people. Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. For realz.
I stuffed that bitch and threw that damn turkey into the oven. I was making mashed potatoes with my right hand, and stirring the gravy with my left, while ignoring the damn turkey in the oven. It could go straight, screaming, to hell.

Did I mention that I have a pond and landscaped yard? They wanted to see the koi and spend time on the deck. Soooooooooo, clean deck, clean leaves off of walkway. Sweating like a pig, vacuuming with one hand while dusting with another, screaming to all the Gods in the universe that life was unfair, while washing the Thanksgiving dishes and throwing the linens in the wash......cleaning the shower while I was washing my hair and shaving my legs...I had been out of the shower for ten minutes when the first guest showed up.
And, sweet fancy Moses, the turkey turned out to be the best I had ever made, the gravy and potatoes were perfectly seasoned even though I had never tasted them,and the broccoli and squash casserole were amazing, and everyone had the best Thanksgiving they had ever remembered. After everyone finally left, and three shots of Patron later, I got onto my knees and thanked God that life was truly good, and knew, at that point, that I would make it.
Life will go on, and we will make it better for all of those who know us, because, that is who we are. The betrayed, the strong, the successful. Because we have been making it real for our families alone for all these years. We are awesome and those losers will someday just be fading memories in the rearview. Rock on!

[This message edited by welcome14 at 1:39 AM, November 29th (Friday)]

ArkLaMiss posted 11/29/2013 01:38 AM

Bless you, Welcome. I wish you many great holidays to come!

timeforchange posted 11/29/2013 04:52 AM

ah boy you just made me cry

Fantastic post

debbysbaby posted 11/29/2013 07:09 AM

Love this! You painted such a vivid picture. Your new beginning should include writing for a living.

trumanshow posted 11/29/2013 07:49 AM

I stuffed that bitch and threw that damn turkey into the oven.

MakingLemonade posted 11/29/2013 09:22 AM

I LOVE THIS!!!! Thanks for sharing!

careerlady posted 11/29/2013 09:29 AM

Great story! I'm happy for you!

jackie89 posted 11/29/2013 10:22 AM

You just made me cry! You described it so perfectly! Isn't it amazing that in those trying times that the food will come out the best - because you made it with such love!

You Rock!

sleepless34 posted 11/29/2013 10:54 AM

That is a great story. Thank you

welcome14 posted 11/29/2013 11:48 AM

Thanks everyone, I just wanted to try and recreate that early-on havoc we are all thrown into in an attempt to let the newer ones know that life will go on. That while life is moments of unmitigated chaos and scrambled hell, there will be moments of great peace again. When I wrote the original post, I was finally back home after sharing Thanksgiving with a great friend and her daughters, then we did a little crazy shopping, just to get out there and see the scene, if you know what I mean. I was sitting on my couch, with my feet up, and the stupey beagle was snuggled next to me, and my yorkie was in my lap, and I realized how far I had come since that first, just found out Thanksgiving day. As Nikki Six says, "Life is beautiful"

PurpleRose posted 11/29/2013 12:12 PM

You rock.

Shattered-Heart posted 11/29/2013 15:33 PM

I love it. Thank you for sharing. :)

SBB posted 11/29/2013 16:21 PM

I love this. It gave me goosebumps.

Love it.

soveryweary posted 11/29/2013 17:18 PM

This is absolutely fabulous welcome.
What a wonderful read after a not so good day.
Thank you.

prowoman posted 11/29/2013 20:31 PM

agreed. awesome, feel good, keep your head up post. thank you!