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I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder a few weeks ago. Seems all kinds of stuff is hitting me at once and I don't know how to handle it anymore.

Besides the black cloud of depression hovering over my head, I'm dealing with empty nest syndrome, hitting 50 (still having trouble with that one), terrible financial situation....collection agencies calling (anyone deal with that one? She was so invasive I felt raped after talking to her)...what are they allowed to ask?

I can't stop crying. I miss my kids. My parents are getting older and talking about nursing homes and wills. My health sucks. I gained 20 pounds. I feel isolated here in rural nowhere that WS abandoned me in. House is falling apart. Can't get front door shut half the time. No outside lights and I trip when I come home in the dark. Oldest is having problems in military and she is going thru depression. Youngest is depressed she has to spend holiday with psychodad. She wanted to be with us yesterday and was craving her uncle's cheesy potatoes and she was stuck with her dad isolated in his tiny rental eating cheese sticks.

I'm really getting tired of fighting. When does it get better? I'm running out of time....

((Na)). I'm sorry. No advice, just a hug.

(((NA))))

I can't help so much with the family situation or the home repairs but do yourself a favor and look at the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act. Its a federal law meant to protect you. It will tell you what the collection agency is legally allowed to do

Naive, look into fuel assistance. If you qualify, it can reduce your heating cost. Also, the electric co. here also offers energy audits - often they do things like replace doors/ windows, sometimes for free. Regardless the audit is free.

Don't know about the debt collectors, sorry. Hang in there hon. There is life after 50, you'll find it. ((NaiveAgain))

(((NaiveAgain))) Sometimes life does seem to overwhelm us all at once. I know I've felt that way, and you have a lot to handle right now.

Please remember to be kind to yourself and try to take things just one step at a time.

When I think I've all of the supportive people I've "met" on SI, you are at the top of the list, so please remember that you have a lot of people here who care about you.

(((NA)))

(((NA)))

Are you taking anything for the depression? From how things sound, at the very least you should probably be on AD's. Remember also, this time of year particularly with the holiday yesterday and more on the way, stress levels are at all time highs.

Small bites here, NA, small bites.

Sending you strength.

AJ's MOM

Thank you for the kind words and support and hugs....they mean a lot.

When I think I've all of the supportive people I've "met" on SI, you are at the top of the list, so please remember that you have a lot of people here who care about you.

And thank you for this too.

Still crying off and on but the nice words from here are good tears....

Fair Debt Collection Practices Act

I will look into that a bit later. I felt so violated...that lady asked so many personal questions...I am now afraid to answer my phone. I am so angry at WS. I never, ever bought anything I couldn't pay for, on credit or otherwise, and now here I am dealing with the bills he ran up in my name.....

Are you taking anything for the depression?

My counselor made an appointment with the psychiatrist for me next Thursday and I am sure he will want to try me on something. My regular doctor prescribed Selexa but I took one pill and had bad heart palpitations all night so I quit taking that one.....

[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 12:57 PM, November 29th (Friday)]

((((NaiveAgain)))) Sending you strength and comfort, honey.

I'm so sorry NA. These NB detours sure do suck. Hang in there.

((((Naiveagain)))

(((NA)))

(((NaiveAgain)))

Tons of hugs. Wish I could do more.

(((NA))) I hope you can come out of the tunnel and see some joy in the season soon.

50 can be an amazing milestone. So much more to do and experience.

Not quite 50?

Heck, you are just a young hottie in my book!

Hang in there. You are a great gal and have had some wonderful posts since I have joined.

Thank you!

Thank you. I want out of this tunnel. I usually enjoy the holidays. But seems this year they are just reinforcing the empty house stuff.

Bebba, thanks! I turned 50 last year but I still haven't recovered from it! I was fine at 49. I didn't feel any different at 49 than I did at 35 or so. But for some reason, 50 just hit like a sledge hammer. I'm not really ready to be middle age just yet.....

((((NA))))

So sorry to hear you are down. This sucks!
My SO was so traumatized by bill collectors when he was a kid and his parents were hounded by the IRS that he still has trouble answering the phone, so I know how bad this can be. They do have more laws about this now though.

I hope you find something that can help with the depression.

Hate to say this, but 50 isn't the beginning of middle age!

I think yoga is the most helpful anti-aging exercise that's also good for depression.

I hope you feel better soon.

(((NA)))

(((NA))) Hope you're feeling better soon.

Thank you for the hugs.

Hate to say this, but 50 isn't the beginning of middle age!

I hadn't even felt middle aged though until I hit 50. Then, instead of hitting middle age, now I just feel old. I went straight from feeling quite youthful to feeling over the hill. Bad mindset. Trying to fix it!

It's always darkest right before the dawn.
Something good is coming your way soon.
I'm sorry you're feeling down.