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Topic: Any advice?

lost31678
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Posted: 10:14 AM, November 29th (Friday), 2013

Okay, so I am new to the idea of divorce. I am looking for a great lawyer in the Colorado Springs area. Is there anything that makes the difference between a "good" lawyer and a "great" lawyer? Also is there anything that you would recommend for a newbie? Looking for advice on anything you know now that you wish you knew back then. Thanks in advance. I am looking to get the house as well as child support and possibly alimony. I have been a SAHM for 10 years married for 7 and 3 kids involved. Plus I am currently a full time student. He left to stay at his moms house on Wed. before Thanksgiving, so he is currently not living here with the kids and I. Also my parents say I should open a separate bank account and start stashing funds. Any advice on that? My WS has offered so graciously to "keep paying all the bills, until I am done with school" (Aug. 2015) and says we don't need lawyers yet...but I MUST cover my arse, so I am getting a lawyer asap. THANKS IN ADVANCE!!

Me: BS 35
Him: WS 34
DDay 1-2004 phone sex
DDay 2-2007 Internet A
DDay-3-10/20/12
internet/text EA
3 kids,10,7,and 5,

Posts: 73 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Colorado

gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595

Posted: 12:09 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013

Catwoman posted to me Martindale.com. Check your state's bar assoc website. I googled and searched cases on a couple attorneys. I ended up with one a good friend went to law school with and she was perfect for me.

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20394 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..

PurpleRose
♀ 33129
Member # 33129

Posted: 12:20 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013

Yes, find a good lawyer.

Get financial documents organized. You can open your own bank account but once the dust settles everything will still be looked at by the court.

Also, just be careful about what he is promising to do. Many of us were promised the moon in the early days... Only to be served a big platter of cowshit once our WS realized what divorce really meant financially.

Get to a lawyer, and get everything in writing.

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 12:21 PM, November 29th (Friday)]

divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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