He referenced his parents marriage and how they have freedom to be individuals within the marriage. WOW!
Ok, I am a little opinionated and I expect A LOT from a WS wanting to take advantage of the gift of R.
Your husband is being a selfish asshole. He took off after Thanksgiving dinner to go to the movies and drinks with the guys?
Ok, he asked and you said yes.
#1. He should not have asked.
#2. He did. I would have asked him why he thinks he should be hanging out with a guys night period...after having an A?
Yeah, no, sorry.
So his parents have freedom to be individuals? Does that include having A's? Because that's what your husband did.
He needs to come home and face the music. It may be uncomfortable, but he created your dispair, your heartache and the buckets of tears you have been spilling.
If he isn't interested in helping you through this, he has no interest in real R.
He should feel guilty, he should feel like a POS for what he has done to you and he should be moving heaven and earth to fix this.
OK, my rant is over.
I hope you are in some IC. I think you need to realize just how selfish his behavior and words are.
You deserve better.
I am sorry
I agree with him, I would pick up some hobbies and start detaching from him. He doesn't deserve your time or devotion.
I am so furious for you.