Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
My head is spinning. We made our relationship official last night, and will soon be engaged.
PLEASE don't sign on the dotted line until WAY after your head quits spinning!!!
I don't want to come across as Debby Downer here, but getting engaged a month after meeting a guy via OLD is a very scary thought to me.
Give it a year, minimum. You won't regret it, and if he's one of those NPD guys that love bomb you, he won't be able to keep up the charade that long. Please, please take your time and slow down!!! If he is the real deal....he will still be there, and still be the same guy. Value yourself enough to wait and see what happens.
I'm saying all this because it sounds soooo damned familiar to me. This is exactly how I felt for the first few months after I started dating NPD XWSO. It took about 18 months before his true colors really started showing. By then, we were living together, but I had told him I'd never marry again (thank God). Oh, there were a times he slipped and showed me who he was, but I was so smitten I overlooked those very important red flags when they popped up. Keep your eyes wide open. My X pushed like hell to move in with me and I finally caved in. Stupid, stupid me.
Never let someone rush, or push, you into something you're not ready for!
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.