There is so much of it that there seems to be no way to avoid it except to not watch movies. Even a passionate kiss seems to be painful to see.
Nudity seems to be hard also, especially women when I am watching with h. This anxiety builds and I want to scream and cover his eyes. It's embarrassing to admit this.
As soon as I the scene starts I get a visual of h and ow.
What do you do?
What does your h do when they see your reaction?
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I attempted R, he was a lie
I wish that instead of seeing him and her those scenes made me see him and I. We have had a million times more sex then they ever had. Hopefully this isn't like this forever..
We have had a million times more sex then they ever had. Hopefully this isn''t like this forever..
I''m going to try to hang on to this ^^^^^ that Angel said. I hope for us all it will go away.
[This message edited by UKlady at 6:34 AM, November 30th, 2013 (Saturday)]
Primary struggle is mind movies and the fact that my wife had unprotected sex with a man she knew for only 2 months....I still wonder how a middle aged woman and a middle aged man can act so teen-like. It is not how we are going to instruct our daughters.....HVP alone is reason enough to NOT engage in unprotected sex.
Secondary struggle is my journey away from porn. Once I recognized my sin for what it is and the very destructive nature of it....seeing provocative pictures or sex scenes is particularly disturbing.
There is so much of it that there seems to be no way to avoid it except to not watch movies.
Amen to this. I believe it softens societys view on sex....particularly infidelity. How many cute romantic comedies are based on two married people running into each other, realize they married the wrong person, then leave their spouses so they can live happily ever after?
How do you find the right person to marry? Be the right person!
.....just a quote I picked up through my reading.
It was part of my journey of Did I Pick The Right Person?
I think of my wife and her AP.....see what each of them was choosing and what each of them was getting. This is not a judgement, it is a factual observation.
My wife is choosing differently now so we are learning to R.
God be with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 7:57 AM, November 30th (Saturday)]
There were some great movies in which sex was an integral part of the story, but by an large, we were much better off when trains entered tunnels and waves crashed on beaches.
I'm not sure what the remedy is, since we obviously can't count on the run of the mill movie-makers. I think if we attempt any sort of censorship, we'll lose the good stuff and keep the crap.
Forgiveness means understanding, acceptance and giving up on looking back.
..that line in Gone with the Wind caused a huge public outcry.. swearing was off limits back then.
..it's gone downhill ever since!
.. I triggered yesterday at a 'peanut butter' commercial ... the kid says at the end: " women just love a BAD BOY!!"
..didn't even have to be sex or nudity for gawdsake!!
The rare times when we rent a movie, if it says R for sexually explicit scenes, we don't rent it.
We both have felt that watching people have sex (even if it is fake on a movie) is a form of voyeurism. (But then Mr. HBH watched porn without my knowing. At least I thought we were both on the same page.) Now I think we really are on the same page.
We also don't watch movies where there is adultery, unless it is a Bible movie, and there is a reason it is in there: to teach a lesson why *not* to engage in it.
So yea, movies, songs, books, whatever. It all disgusts me now. People who love 50 shades of grey can keep it. KMA.