He showed me who he was ... and I now believe him.
I have a SO who I care for deeply. I've known him for two years now, it's a bit of a LDR and some compromise on my part as he has young children who spend most of their time with him, my family is grown up now both still at home, although very independent. It seems to be working out well, I'm certainly not wanting any more than we have now, the amount of time we spend together is fine. I get along great with his children and it's a nice balance of alone time for me during the week ...maybe one night with him n a weeknight, and most weekends together.
I've said those three little words ....I love you ...and he seems delighted to hear it. However he's not saying it back and it's making me feel terrible. I know it's not right that he says it when he doesn't feel it...but if I could eat my words I would. I'm thinking if he doesn't feel it now (and he says he doesn't ..but that he cares for me a lot and I am special to him) well he's never going to feel it. He's kind and caring to me, really takes care of me when I'm at his home, I feel like he loves me, which sounds crazy, because it couldn't be clearer that he doesn't.
Why can't I be satisfied with some who treats me well, is respectful and caring, likes spending time with me etc. my WH told me he didnt love me, that he loved someone else, it felt like my insides were being ripped out.. Perhaps I'm just looking to replace the love, that I'm just desperate to be loved again.
BS - separated - no remorse or reconciliation from WH - trying to move on with my life.