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I haven't posted in a while, our R has been going wonderful. We both have been working so hard and are so in tuned to each other. Here is the problem...occasionaly I find myself checking her facebook page. I know I shouldn't but I do and I really don't know why. They are not friends on Facebook or any media, there has been no contact since May/June when I found out...

I should not be looking right??? How do I break myself from it??

Any advice would be great!

Yes, you should be looking. You are not very far out from D-Day. It has nothing to do with R at all. So many people think they are R, and then find out that the A went further underground. Some people think they are in R and find out through constant check-ups that their WS has ended all contact and they are truly in R. It takes 2-5 years to get through this, and you're not very far out.

You keep checking everything until YOU feel you no longer need to. That's my two cents.

I think you should to. In my case, there's no R, so I've removed all his family, friends, and blocked those I don't want to know about. What I don't know can't hurt me.

You are looking at the OW's page?

I struggle with this. Sometimes the looky-loo in me wants to see what she has put on public view, but other times, nah. The only reason I would think she'd put things on public view is for me to look at them (she didn't prior to dday - I checked.)

This woman is so bent she posted obliquely about the affair *while it was going on,* and I was probably her most active "friend" on FB. . .so, not someone with all her oars in the water.