What gave me the courage to file was the thought that without something about custody that he could just take my child. That thought got my ass straight in to see a lawyer.
He wasn't angry at first but when he started seeing the consequences, he became angry. He would throw mantrums every time things got 'public'...he does not like looking bad.
At the time I did not want to go through the process...because I don't like confrontation. But I'm so glad that I filed when I did...filing prevented him from buying another house and withdrawing the retirement.