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User Topic: a letter from xWH
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[quote/]OWifetress nor I ever said anything about IrishLad coming this weekend,two weekends in a row.That was oldest son's mistake,his misunderstanding.I have said the second and the fourth weekends.It was your year for Thanksgiving not ours.There is no Holiday weekend.Read the parenting plan.I do not want anything from you.I will never owe you anything.
. By the way I do not care about who or what you are doing. I do not care at all and do not want to know or hear anything about you. IrishLad should not be expected to lie.I have already told him I do not want to hear or know anything about you.You are dead to me. Ours was a marriage of convenience.I was never in love with you,hell never loved you at all.I was pressured into marrying you...then fear is why I stayed cause you are crazy and spiteful and I was not gonna lose my kid or everything I worked for.You pressured me into having IrishLad. But I am his father and you do not get to control everything with him anymore. Why is he saying he is sick all the time again? I did not think you took care of him before I can only imagine how it is now. And again...do not speak of things you know nothing about..I only said OC was sick so much because I did not want her around you. Like that Christmas when all I wanted was to be with her and OWifetress. I could not wait for their calls at night while I was trapped and I always was anxious to be with them. You controlled and manipulated our entire time together. OC at least was a unexpected surprise,even though it is not what you tell others. I am happy and in love now. I wish the drama concerning you would just go away.
You think you control and hurt me. I just think you are pathetic and laughable. My kids who you bitched about,always wanted them in trouble our entire time together...they could not stand you and could not wait to get away from you...The lies and BS you feed them now is sad. And they buy it. You only got nice to them when we started having problems.When I was fed up and wanted out. My mother who the two of you could not stand each other our whole time together...Now you are friends,whatever. Keep each other. And mostly my ex wife. The ex who I actually did care for and love at a time.Not anymore though.She buys into your shit and offers enough of her own.I found OWifetress and found what true love really is...You and 1st ex wife hated each other.Especially you hating on her. And this was a woman I was having sex with throughout nearly the whole time of yours and my entire marriage.Among others. You are just laughable. Pathetic. Does not hurt me none...I was unhappy the whole time with you.I finally escaped.
. Also I want you to stop using my name. Does not matter what it may say in divorce.Alot has happened and I do not want you or your daughter using my name.You two are not (last name), never were.You are (maiden name or 1st married name) or whatever. I am telling you I do not want you using it. I could go a legal route. And no IrishLad does not need his mom having the same last name. It happens everywhere all the time where they do not. You need to get him off your tit and let him grow up and learn things.So for once do not be spiteful and controlling and go back to your own name without it having to go the legal route.

. As for IrishLad visiting...He comes again Friday December 13th through Sunday the 15th. After that as it is our year for Christmas eve he comes the night before the holiday,which is Monday December 23rd at 7 and stays until 10 am Christmas day. After that he comes back Friday December 28th and stays through Monday December 30th for our time for some of his break and to make up for the weekend we lost when you made vacation plans without having oldest son talk to us about it. After that Friday January 10th and so on.

. signed xWH
For the cheap seats, I wrote this. [/quote]

Yup, this is what I deal with that I don't tell anyone about


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((IrishLass & IrishLad))))))))))

What a fucking pathetic waste of air and space.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26168 | Registered: Aug 2011
ArkLaMiss
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Member # 14918
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmmmm, owifetress must be feeling threatened to have written all that crap, huh? As for "his" last name, hahahahaha, he cannot MAKE you stop using YOUR married name, no matter how much he threatens!
I also would email and tell him he gets ZERO makeup time because of his stupid reasons!
Geez, they're BOTH tools. You, however have AMAZING magical powers girl!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1230 | Registered: Jun 2007
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it time now for Our Family Wizard? You need to get your son out of the middle of this war, and you need a way to communicate. (((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10017 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was actually thinking that it is time for a no contact order to include IrishLad. He is telling IrishLad this crap when he visits. IrishLad hears him saying these things while he is there.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow.

He is a serious asshole.

I hope you don't plan on replying to this absolutely ridiculous crazy talk. His world must be lacking oxygen or something.

You are so much better than this duckweed. I'm sorry you have to deal with crazy. I hope there is something you can do to protect your Lad. :(


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh fuck him. What an all knowing stupid dumbass. I don't have any words of advice but I just wanted to remind you not to believe one dillusional thing he has said. He is a sad and bitter "man". Hugs to you cuz you have to deal with this bullshit.

[This message edited by dmari at 11:54 PM, December 1st (Sunday)]


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2301 | Registered: Oct 2012
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you PR and dmari, no I have no intention of replying with anything other than a possible NC order. This is not the 1st letter, I have saved them all. This one just really gets to me because of all the mentions of the kids.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guess OWifetress was really pissed for being in the wrong on this one....fucking bitch. I wonder what it feels like for your XWH to have absolutely no balls whatsoever - but seems to be something he has become accustomed to...lol.

What a ridiculous diatribe of bullshit...I couldn't even READ it all....

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this BS IrishLass. ((Hugs))

[This message edited by persevere at 12:42 AM, December 2nd (Monday)]


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4669 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
betrayedfriend
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Member # 19785
Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww honey, I'm so sorry he feels free to spew his venom at you. You don't deserve it at all and irishlad and the other Irish kids don't deserve to be subjected to it either. He is such a piss ant. I hope you can get a no contact order and for contempt and any other avenue you have of nailing his microscopic balls to the wall, please take it. He deserves nothing less than to Rot in his own hateful little mind.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 878 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Say to yourself:

You need better bait, fuckwit.

What you think of me matters less to me than you might imagine.

Tell me, does she wear his balls as earrings?

What a pathetic loser. They do seem to pull this shit when they get desperate for ego kibbles. Like ego kibble crack whores they'll to whatever it takes to get their fix.

UnicornFartLand loses its sparkle so they're looking for some glue.

Sorry douche, you're shit out of luck on the kibbles and the glue.

The only one trapped was you. He knows this. He's right that he never loved you - because he doesn't know how to. No surprise to you.

I thought the sad clown was the master of major projection but this guy is a contender.

The sad clown got his name from behaviour just like this. Makes you wonder who they are trying to convince, doesn't it?

So sad. His problems are still all your fault.

Keep telling yourself whatever you need to to live with yourself, dude. Everyone knows exactly what you are. OWifetress is the same animal which is why she can stand to look at your pathetic face. You being so very pathetic make her feel better about herself.

There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck.Off.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5656 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Vulcanized
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Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 4:16 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a hard time getting thru this, IL. Your XH & especially wifestress are disgusting piles of dogshit. FTG & the whore he rode in on.

Shit, I'll come to your town & kick that see-ya-next-tuesday right in the fucking head.

(((IL)))


FTG!


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Thefly559
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Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 4:54 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a f--king asshole


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 707 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
shiloe
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Member # 1224
Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For a man (and I use that term loosely) to write a letter like that, and to say such hurtful evil things just speaks volumes about what kind of a character he has (or lacks).

Seriously, to write that is a special kind of F*cked up.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with yet another married ho-worker. Kicked h

Posts: 631 | Registered: Mar 2003
confused615
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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like wifetress wrote it.

For a man(or the bitch,depending on who wrote it) who says he doesn't care about you anymore, he sure seems focused on you.

FTG.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7906 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only thing I would respond to is the part about the visitation (I've gotten a similar letter, although not quite so poisonous last holiday vacation). I just referred to the page and paragraph of the holiday visiting schedule.

(((hugs))) What a shit


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1279 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So the whore drank too much and took pen to paper, huh? What an illiterate and idiotic missive.

I would quote the decree regarding visitation and ignore the rest. If it came as an email, I would QUOTE the entire thing after my response, in case Fuckwit has not seen what his whore wrote, though.

What a hateful pair. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9020 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

What a hateful letter: it says everything about him/her.

Not replying is the best thing you can do. It does not deserve a reply.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does read like a woman wrote this. Either that or he's very in touch with his (ignorant and cruel) feminine side. It seems a lot of vitriol for a confusion in custody time.

For the cheap seats, I wrote this.

Wonder if they're lurkers here or do they assume you'll share this with friends and family?

Either way, while it seems like the letter is cruel all it really says is that he lets others make his choices for him. According to "his" own words he did before and from how this reads, he's doing it now.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy Isis, they often write these letters and then ask around to see who I told and what my response is. For someone who doesn't want to know anything about me, they take the time to ask around. The last time I told my niece to ignore their questions as I was ignoring the letter. I expect that I will get a message from her in a day or two this time. I truly don't get this, it has been 2 and a half years since divorce.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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