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User Topic: hearing next week
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im still filling out my paperwork for court. Im nervous and anxious and a little scared cause I hate being in this situation at all. Id rather he just up and leave the state and i never see him again.
hoping the meeting goes quickly. I will remain calm while I hope he blows up or gets upset. i plan to pick out a nice outfit today and force myself to somehow figure all this money bs stuff out.

how on earth do I show what I paid, whats due and such if he left a month ago? I have used cards since then? what a mess. my head is spinning when I think of it.

we dont have much to decide, so I hope this hearing covers it all. a few bills, a car, throw out his rediculous requests for me to pay his child support for a child thats not mine and he wants maintenance for a 10 month marriage. oh and half my house i owned for 10 yrs. hes so so selfish and dumb to even ask.


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
gma56
♀ 19595
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lifestoshort)))

It is a mess to sort it out.

so I hope this hearing covers it all. a few bills, a car, throw out his ridiculous requests for me to pay his child support for a child thats not mine and he wants maintenance for a 10 month marriage. oh and half my house i owned for 10 yrs. hes so so selfish and dumb to even ask.

I hope your attorney gets him laughed out of courtroom ! What a gold digging POS !!

Do your best showing what you pd. Checks-debit-credit statements.
He should walk away with his head hanging down out embarrassment!

Big Hugs and good luck ! I hope your attorney goes after him like a sly fox with a bulldog attitude.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
Member # 18442
Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree. I hope someone scolds the f out of him in there. its quite rediculous the things he want. $500 in monthly support!! um I was married 7 yrs and didnt get maintenance. what a jerk to even ask.

how do I update my credit cards statements when hearing is next week and statement is not current? I dont have online statements so I cant get it done that day.
I did print off my band statement tho to show what bills I paid. how do they figure what is due yet, and what I paid to have him pay half? thats alot of adding up! yick.

2. the paperwork to fill out for lawyer is so tedious and annoying. so many details that i don't know or cant think of. it was 10 months of marriage. we dont own anything together other than a bed, vacuum and dresser.


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank for replying


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
gma56
♀ 19595
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can only give the info you have and offer to give the rest when you receive new statement.

Married 10 mo- show the 9mo bills and statements.
What a POS wanting $500/mo for less than a year of marriage.
I know SAHM married 7 yrs with children that didn't maintenance because long term is 10 yrs in most states. The kids get CS but not the spouse unless agreed by both parties because of school or something similar and then not for long term.
I hope the judge throws out all his demands !! Get a job idiot.

[This message edited by gma56 at 3:48 PM, December 2nd (Monday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh lawyer didnt tell me to bring in 9 months of bills but that makes sense. perhaps if they see he only game me a fraction of bills... but then again if they see I was taking care of it all, they may throw it on me.

I just want him to be responsible. and yes, no job yet in a yr and a half. he had excuse after excuse. even that it was MY fault. gah. if he falls off a bridge today I would not be sad at all


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you talk to your lawyer about an annulment? So its as if the marriage never took place?


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5100 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
Member # 18442
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes, he believes I can win on the grounds but it will take longer, almost a yr longer. at this point I just want out.


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so updating this. I won!
I got maintenance, him to pay minimums on the bills, dog back and now Im just trying to figure out when we talk about the other stuff.

like bills. thats all we really need to argue about. lets say the bills ad up to $4500 (not a ton) but say I paid $4K already on them and can prove it. when I go into court will I be asking for the full $2250 to be paid by him? or what amount? my brain is mush so maybe I am overthinking this.

also, he's on income assignment to pay this stuff. otherwise I would probably never see the money. he skipped out on his 1st with and left her with all the bills. thats not happening to me!

[This message edited by lifestoshort at 9:59 AM, December 16th (Monday)]


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so updating this. I won!
I got maintenance, him to pay minimums on the bills, dog back and now Im just trying to figure out when we talk about the other stuff.
Woohoo! glad things worked out for you. Hoping others will come along to answer your other questions but just wanted to give youa virtual high five for winning!


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1924 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you!! I broke NC today and texted him that I left something he needed on my porch. thats it. he messages me back twice about seeing HIS dog.

um, the dog you told the judge you gave away? that dog you lied about but still keep calling yours? what a jerk. so I dont answer either text cause hes pissing me off calling the dog his and then begging to see him.

my atty calls and says my ex doesnt feel comfy coming to get the stuff on porch. OMG, I was gone the entire day so he would have avoided me BUT he was fine being there to see dog prior? Bull$hit. he just wanted to play with my atty. probably telling lies and vent to. lame.

so he's suppose to get the rest of his things this Sat, tell me, will you feel to uncomfy then?
I told my atty to not talk to him again. he said, ok!


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 704 | Registered: Mar 2008
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If were you I'd ask for half the money income assignment, and forget about any possessions you forgot....just not worth it.

I'd leave all his stuff outside on Saturday, and lock yourself in the house with a friend. Ask your lawyer if you can give him a deadline or it is all donated.

Maybe have a big menacing friend there too.

Don't poke the bear and go completely dark on him. Is it possible to change your phone number?

Congrats for winning


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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lifestoshort
♀ 18442
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yeah I can change my number. altho I am not worried he will contact me again. he went 4 weeks w out one text.

hes a big fricken baby. I just cant wait to be done.

great idea about the stuff on the porch. he moaned and complained it was such a hassle to have to get stuff 2 months ago and hes rummaging thru the boxes I put all his crap in... Im like then stop making it hard. just take ALL of it and leave. nope, he literally went thru the house and took food, bits of soap, some of my clothing he was fond of, our wedding pictures that i paid for...
if I leave his stuff on the porch he will probably bitch that he wasnt able to get it all but as I know, he lies lies lies so how can I even ensure that he wont lie about that. I cant.

stuff being left on porch is whats happening cause i dont want to talk to him. I dont want to even look at him. In late Jan I have to discuss the stuff we are fighting over tho. the longer he is married, the longer he has to pay me. honestly, I think he likes the conflict and possible hope we will get back together. the train left the station a yr ago tho :(


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


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