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StillLivin posted 12/2/2013 14:22 PM

To recap:
My STBXH is a morally bankrupt f..kwit. He cheated, he went into false R, then after DD#2 true R for about 6-8 weeks. Then he fell off the wagon royally!
He was arrogant enough to tell me he was leaving me, but he wasn't in the A anymore. Helloooo moron, I had your passwords to everything. I saw the emails. I saw the money being spent on calling cards. Idjat.
We are in a covenant marriage, please see below for explanation.
He cannot D me. Matter of fact, he didn't do anything, nothing, nada, nilch to try to convince me to LS or D him before he came home from Afghanistan.
Then, he got back and I served him with LS papaers. He was furious and then sobbed in the driveway after I left.
Went through the judge, he has to pay for the D because he is the one that defaulted on the covenant M, plus I wanted R but true R not underground crap.
To this day, he has not sent me a dime and stalls with the D money but left and set up a love nest with his fugly Shrek lookalike (NOT Fiona, Shrek) whore. Throws her up in my face, but damn sure gets jealous if he even thinks anyone is sniffing around my skirts. Moron idjat.
He pulled a really cruel act recently, prentended Shrek was pregnant and had had her baby. She was never pregnant, never had a baby, basically some more petty, juvenile drama.
Now, thanks to my loving SIL passing the info on, I find out that he is telling everyone on his side of the family who will actually entertain his stupidity and believe him that he is divorcing me?
Asshat, send me the money I need for health/dental insurance and the D fees, and I will gladly D you and let you tell your BS lies.
I know it is his way of trying to reach out and hurt me some more, but I'm finally in a place where his words don't hurt. Just amazes me that he is really this stupid and really this vindictive.
BTW told SIL that I just don't care anymore who believes what, what he says, blah blah blah...don't pass this type of info on anymore or I might throw up.
Why can I not just be left alone? I'm playing nice or rather I'm not even playing anymore. Sheesh, I'm not even on the playground with him and his stupid whore.

Covenant Marriage: As of August 21, 1998, Arizona incorporated into statue a new type of marriage called "covenant marriage."...
The State Legislature has created a type of marriage in Arizona called "covenant marriage." It does not replace the kind of marriage already available. Instead it offers an additional option to couples who wish to marry. The covenant marriage differs both in the steps necessary to get married and the reasons why a legal separation or divorce may be granted by the court.
To enter into a covenant marriage, the couple first must have counseling (called "premarital counseling") from a member of the clergy or a marriage counselor. Then, when applying for a license to be married, both persons must show
their intention to enter into a covenant marriage by signing a special statement (or "declaration") on the application form. In a covenant marriage, legal separation or divorce (in Arizona, a "dissolution of marriage") may be granted by the
court only for specific reasons listed in state law. These are explained in the following pages.
By law (Section
25-901 of the Arizona Revised Statutes) a person must state
their intention to enter into a covenant marriage.
For a covenant marriage, the court can only grant a
divorce (“dissolution of marriage” in Arizona) or a legal separation
for certain, limited reasons.
1. adultery
2. committed a felony and has been sentenced to death or imprisonment
3. abandonment. at least one year before you can file for LS or D if abandonment is filed.
4. physical or sexual abuse spouse, child, or relative of spouse
5. the spouses have been living separate and apart without getting back together for at least t
two straight years before the divorce case is filed
blah blah blah

whiteflower99 posted 12/2/2013 14:57 PM

(((( SL )))))
It is infuriating. I get it.

damncutekitty posted 12/2/2013 17:45 PM

I've been divorced for 8 years and I am still amazed when things filter back to me. Like hearing through a mutual aquaintence that my XH tells people he was never married. So weird!

It's pretty common for a WS to lie to their family, though. Some people will do ANYTHING to make themselves look good.

StillLivin posted 12/3/2013 12:20 PM

Thank you both.
I hope at some point I will no longer ask why does he do these things.
Why ask why, right!

Came to a good realization today. I have always been the stronger one in the relationship. I've alwasy been the good person, he wasn't always so good. I've always taken the high road, even when every baser instinct said to get down and dirty and kick some tail, figuritively and literally speaking.
He has always broken promises. I should have caught that when they were still little promises. Those are the easy ones to keep. Will see this red flag if it ever appears in a new relationship....and I will walk away.
He has always been selfish. I should have caught that when we were still dating, but, lesson learned.
I don't think he likes who he truly is. I'm positive he knows that he is the pathetic one. Not me.
I'm not the broken one. Amazing how his brokenness never ceases to amaze me.
And most important, I like myself. I really do!

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