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User Topic: Things you would love to do, but won't...
♀ 40306
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage know, because they are immature and wrong, but are still fun to think about....

1. Since I know she monitors his FB account now, I'd love to send him a PM thanking him for the great makeup sex. ( we aren't having sex at all....but I bet it would make her seriously question him or at the very least piss her off and give him a good look at her true self)...this would only be fun if I got to watch her read it and her reaction following....but it's still wrong, so I won' just takes me down to their level.

2. I'd love to post a message on my wall congratulating DH on landing that younger woman and introduce her to the world by name so that all of his friends could greet her. Again, completely inappropriate and immature. So I won't do it, but it's fun to think about....but hey...since there's nothing wrong with what they are doing, it shouldn't be a big deal, right?

BESIDES THAT...I'm still hoping that R will be on the table at some, need to behave and think accordingly...

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

Posts: 5601 | Registered: Aug 2013
♀ 40779
Member # 40779
Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have more violent thoughts. Fill her car totally full with dog poop, drown her in a bathtub, feed her to a much? I think she deserves what she gets. She knew my WH had a child and was married. I am waiting though, karma is a bitch and I want a fromt row when it gets her!

BW 41(me)
WH 41
DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with whorenado
DDay 2 05/09/14 texts to another woman (not returned)
I live a real life fairy tale. I married prince charming. He kissed a troll. He turned into a frog.

Posts: 332 | Registered: Sep 2013
♀ 40605
Member # 40605
Funny  Posted: 4:42 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go to her work where she mans the reception desk, take a seat, and just stare at her. Continuously, and watch her squirm and try to act professional. If she called a higher up about it, I would be so very happy to explain to her bosses and co- workers exactly why I am there.

Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every day

Posts: 699 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
♀ 30024
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Make up a bumper sticker and stick it to the back of its vehicle. It would state: I Have Sex With Married Men, Honk If You Think I'm a Slut.

2. Post a sign in its yard with the same message as above.

3. Plaster its neighborhood and grocery store with a flyer warning every married women to beware of the slunty cumdumpster.

4. Call its live in boyfriend and tell him all about its scummy past. Also tell him that his GF got his best friend to call my FWH to give him a message.

5. Just want to call it up and let loose with every foul name I can think of to call it.

6. Send it a bucket of elephant shit.

7. Send it a Christmas card that says "Ho, Ho, Ho" on the front. Inside I would cross out the message and write instead: Yes, yes you are. (I have the card.)

8. Post it all over the cheater website.

9. Want to write a message on its page posing as FWH and saying (the gist): I don't know if OW was a slunty cumdumpster in High School or not but that it has grown up to be a world class slut . That it doesn't care if you are married, you don't have to take it on dates, you don't have to tell it you love it, you don't have to buy it gifts, you can tell it you'll never leave your wife, and it is such a sport that OW will still fuck you and even pay for the hotel room. But, it will fuck in cars in parking lots, too.

10. Just one good throat punch.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 13448 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
♀ 38017
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would love to include a picture of WH and his ex-whore on our Christmas card, right next to pics of me and the kids and the in-laws!

Of course I won't, because of the kids, but that would feel great to show everybody what an ugly, gold-digging whore he was willing to lose everything for.

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New England
♀ 38604
Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sistermilkshake. All of it!!

ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 476 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
♀ 41202
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

karma is a bitch and I want a fromt row when it gets her!

Heartbroken... I feel the same way.

I would love to tell her that my WH still keeps a picture of us in his wallet...Yes I snooped.... I would love to tell her parents that she's a mistress... I would love to punch her in the mouth so she can't do duckface selfies anymore... I would love to make a collage of her family with me in it.... ( payback time bitch... Read my past posts)

Those are just a few...

Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
♀ 35593
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Put a giant billboard next to interstate with a picture of her enormous face with "Mistress, slut or whore, your choice" with her phone number underneath.

2. Use round up to write whore in her lawn

3. Pack dog poop underneath her car door handle

4. A little shortening under her windshield wipers

5. Send copies of their nasty emails/texts to her minister father, her governing body, her aunts and uncles, and all of the donors to her non profit. She depends on her "Christian" reputation to further her cause.

6. Publish very graphic descriptions of her body and its anomalies on FB so she knows my H has shared with me her "privates spaces"

7. Tell her new friends (our old friends) exactly how she operates her two faced life of sanctity and depravity.

No, I will not be doing any of this, endorse any of this, and no, I did not endorse her and my H screwing, either. Just dreaming.

Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R

Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose

Posts: 3470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
♀ 41313
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Show up at her church and sit next to her, then doodle all the things I know on my bulletin.

Show up at her church and sit next to her husband, then invite him to lunch, just the two of us.

Check her children out of school and take them out for fun and ice cream, but not tell her I've got them she can worry and figure it out.

Show up at her work and have whispered conversations with her coworkers.

Post the whole damn thing on facebook.

Call all of our mutual friends to spill the beans.

I want her to be embarrassed. Humiliated. I want her to be afraid of me.

[This message edited by Dyinghere at 8:13 PM, December 2nd (Monday)]

Posts: 204 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 13937
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Poat this on his FB and other pages:

"Hi. My name is ____ and I love to cheat on my family. Not just my beautiful wife, but my children as well. I stole time from them to spend with OWx, OWy, OWz etc. and their kids. Sorry ladies, you really weren't that special after all.
Oh and because I was irresponsible enough to have unprotected sex with multiple partners, my uninsured wife had to spend time and money we didn't have to get screened for everything. . ."

Of course I would tag every OW I could.;

What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.

Posts: 2184 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Not Lothlorien
♀ 22870
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I repeatedly threaten to drive to his house, kick him in the balls twice, and leave.

I'm a simple girl.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9177 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
♀ 39532
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A billboard on the main road into our small town with a picture of OW and a simple caption: Whore, and proud of it. Is your husband next?

BS 35
WS 31
DD, only child
DDay: 06/09/13
End of TT/Full Disclosure 07/08/13

Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.

Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.

Posts: 230 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Here and there...
♀ 39070
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hahaha. S.Milkshake. Great minds think a like!!! I'm sure we could come up with more!!!!


Posts: 84 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MA
♂ 39357
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10. Just one good throat punch.

Posts: 350 | Registered: May 2013
♀ 41313
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To go with the bumper sticker idea, how about:
I sleep with married men
Go ahead and rear end me


Posts: 204 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 25144
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have her phone me or try to talk to me to apologize (because she is soooo sorry, according to her family) and I look at her with a blank look and politely say, "I'm sorry, but who are you?" When she tells me who she is, I would say, "Oh, that's who you are. You hurt me terribly, but you need to know that because of you, Mr. HBH is more dedicated to our M and to me than he was before he met you. He has realized his life would have turned into a living nightmare had he M you, since he now knows he wasn't the first MM you tried to lure away from his family. And....he is more loving and attentive in bed than he ever was before your EA with him...and let me tell you, he was good even before the EA. You'll never know that part of him. Thank you for helping him realize how much he loves me and his family!" Then I would turn and walk away.

[This message edited by HurtButHopeful? at 11:36 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]

Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley

Posts: 1729 | Registered: Aug 2009
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me - 45
2 kids, 12 and 15
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1688 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
♀ 38207
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

These are fabulous.
OW1 - wanted my H desperately. He slept with her once and never again. She still tries and he is repulsed by her. I figure her knowing that he wants nothing to do with her even when she wants him so badly is enough.

OW2 - was my good friend. I've thought about it a lot
1. Go to her work, take her business cards off the service counter, write 'For a good time call' on the top of each on and then put them back on the counter
2. Send someone she wouldn't recognize to have their car serviced and when she tries to help them have them demand, loudly, to see a different service rep because they couldn't possibly trust their car to a whore who sleeps with taken men.
3. Egg her house (I actually dream about doing this)
4. Smash her windshield with a baseball bat (her paid for car is her prized possession)
5. Watching her on the day that her teenage son calls her out on behaving like his peers and then trying to act like a mom to him.

OW3&4 - eh, online sluts. Their lifestyles will do them in. One is a swinger who was told I gave her and my H the ok. The other didn't know I existed. Don't have so much anger at them.

OW5 - lives cross country from me. I sometimes still dream about driving the 24 hours just to show up on her doorstep and smack her across the face with a folding chair when she opens the door.

Posts: 1595 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 38865
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Punch Lonelygirl10's MC in the throat

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 759 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
♀ 34373
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are so many things I would love to do to them both at this point but nothing I could do could ever compare to what they are doing to themselves. Karma sure takes her time, she makes it worth the wait though

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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